[Rita Mae]

I just have an ethical question.

In the state I live you can not claim abandonment in order to have paternal rights terminated. Doesn't matter if there has been no contact or child support for 10 years. The only way to do so is to prove. . . how did they say it. . .? Well, pretty much that the father would have to have been convicted for sexual abuse or has been in prison half his life. Overall, that he would have to be dangerously rotten.

So my question is, a lot of states have abandonment laws where if there has been no contact or childsupport for one year, the rights will be terminated. What would you guys do? Would you move to that state, live there for a while to become a resident then file to have biofathers rights terminated? Or would you just wait till your child is 18 and do it at that time?

[supermom]

Hmmmm, I know I have certainly considered fleeing the country if my son's bf ever tried to see him. Is it ethical? I am not sure how to answer this without people getting offended. If you feel so strongly about it, then it is worth considering. Think of this. Have you ever wanted to move to another state? One that just happens to be convenient? Wee, people move all the time. I don't think it should just be for one reason, but if you have several, then go for it.