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Originally Posted By kate

Is that why it has been taking so long? We also have been waiting a Very long time (3+ years) and don't understand why, if there is a need for loving adoptive families, the system drags things out so long.

Hope to hear more from you,
Kate

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Deana(30)Dh(29)DS(8)DS(6)and DS(3).We are in Nebraska. We had an adoptive placement that disrupted early last month. Recovering from that. No longer actively pursueing adoption. We will continue to foster, mostly emergency placements. May still adopt if something comes up but who knows. Don't plan to look out of state again or look at all, maybe in a few years I'll change my mind on that but right now I think the only way we will adopt is if we get a fos-adopt child or we decide we can afford an infant adoption. Thank you guys for all the support you have provided to us. I still like to lurk and see how things are going for all of you.

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Me 34,dh 34, bio ds 7, four dogs, 1 darn stray cat, and hoping for a sib group of 2 some day, but we are starting to lose our mindes (whats left) because of the waiting!!!!!!

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Originally Posted By lori

lori (33), Dh (39) 2 bios 11, 9 & Adopted son 6 and adopted daughter 4. We haven't finalized yet but we are hoping too soon. They came from DE and they are a great state to work with. I would highly recommend them.

For those waiting for a child still.. don't give up. I know the waiting is hard but it will happen when your child comes available. Someone told me that while we were waiting and I thought they were blowing smoke but once we rec'd placement... those words just rang in my ears.

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Originally Posted By Debbie

Hi Kate. My husband & I are looking to adopt from infant to age 3. We have our foster care license, and MAPP training classes and are so ready, but it seems that it will never happen. Every year goes by and its the same thing. We don't have any children and want to so badly!! I am a special ed teacher and am around young children every day and it's getting so hard. How do you keep it from consuming your life, 24/7? Are you looking to adopt a young child also? Thanks for letting me babble! Debbie

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Originally Posted By momofsixx

Hello all;

Mom of six bio children (4 home, ages 5-16). Homeschooler and grad student. Hoping to adopt a sibling group.

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Originally Posted By Susan C.

Susan (inching toward 30), Roger (52), Demario (10), Amanda (10), Alexis (8) and Alia (2).

Amanda and Alexis came into my life biologically by a previous marriage. Adopted Alia from the country of Kazakhstan in March, 2000. Found this group at around board #10, in fall of 2000. Received committee approval for Demario's placement from North Carolina in Dec. 2000. He arrived to our home in March, 2001. His adoption finalized on Oct. 31, 2001.

Recently discovered that Demario has Asperger's Syndrome. Had thought we and he were all coming to grips with it and what it means until the last few days or so in which he's exhibited some behaviors that may or may not be Asperger's related but have been fairly rough to deal with. Other than that, we're happily homeschooling in Colorado and learning to live life post-adoption process.

Haven't posted too much lately, but still check in every few days to see what's going on.

-Susan C.

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Originally Posted By kate

Sometimes it feels like the adoption quest has consumed my life. I try to keep busy. I work, volunteer, and spend time with my family. I'm blessed in that I have bio children. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have them.

We're hoping to adopt any age up to teens. I'm not ready to jump in with those teen years first off. It's taken so long because of social workers who don't properly do their job. It makes me so mad. But how do you overstep them? I wish I could.

Everyone says that once you have the child everything will come together and you'll realize why things took so long, that it's because the child that's meant to be yours isn't ready yet. I hang on to that thought when I get discouraged. I hope you continue to post. Knowing that I'm not on this dead-end road alone keeps me going.

Kate

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Susan (inching toward 30), Roger (52), Demario (10), Amanda (10), Alexis (8) and Alia (2).

Amanda and Alexis came into my life biologically by a previous marriage. Adopted Alia from the country of Kazakhstan in March, 2000. Found this group at around board #10, in fall of 2000. Received committee approval for Demario's placement from North Carolina in Dec. 2000. He arrived to our home in March, 2001. His adoption finalized on Oct. 31, 2001.

Recently discovered that Demario has Asperger's Syndrome. Had thought we and he were all coming to grips with it and what it means until the last few days or so in which he's exhibited some behaviors that may or may not be Asperger's related but have been fairly rough to deal with. Other than that, we're happily homeschooling in Colorado and learning to live life post-adoption process.

Haven't posted too much lately, but still check in every few days to see what's going on.

-Susan C.

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DH & I in our med and late 40s, DS(20)in college. Classes done, paperwork done, house not ready. Long story. Hope to adopt sybling group. DH is rural letter carrier, I'm SPED teacher -- LD, BD, MI, TBI, and now Autism. When my school system has an unusual situation, I get to go to grad school. Also 2 grown and launched DD (25), DS (27). Been here since board 1. What a learning place.

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Originally Posted By Kena

Me, dh, 3 dogs, and a (loud) parrot... We are visiting with a 13 y/o girl we are hoping very much to adopt. We are enjoying getting to know her and keeping our fingers crossed...

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Originally Posted By Kitty

Kitty (32) dh (34) dd (6) dd(2)

Well, we were on our way to committee in September when, well, um, you see, our lives took a turn. I'm due in June and we decided it wouldn't be the best time for us to be adopting right now...

I still lurk and read everyone's posts! Keep up the good work and know that you are getting silent support from me!

Good luck to everyone!

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We have elected to go international..Korea...our son, 7, today! was adopted domestically but has 1/4 Korean heritage. We discovered that we are nearly too old, 43 being the cutoff and I will be in April and dh in June. We have been waiting for too long with many bumps and delays along the road. So, we are excited. I still read often and so many issues apply to our son. I'm hooked!!! Nancy

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I wonder how the SWAN meetings will go this weekend?????

DH and I have to bio daughters at home, and we're looking for a son. Last week I put youngest back in school and I'm working hard on redecorating/remodeling the house.

Love this board!
SHERRY

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Originally Posted By Pam

Have seven kids and six are adopted and our family is complete. Mark, 25, is biological and on his own. Scott, 25, was adopted from Hong Kong at age 6 and is out and on his own and doing great. Julie, 17, was adopted from Korea as an infant and has recently been diagnosed with bipolar disorder (mixed states and rapid cycling). She is on depakote and risperdal now and doing much better. She was homeschooled, graduated early, and is now in tech school for Cosmetology and busy, busy, busy. Raphael was adopted from New Jersey (a great state to adopt from) at age 10. he is almost 13 now and has academic delays. He is around a 2nd grade level in all subjects and we are trying to get him into a very intensive special ed program at school (in fact, I'm out the door right after this to talk to school social worker). I believe we will get it. He is a doll, very sweet, an angel. Rayon, 9, was adopted from Delaware in April last year (another good state to adopt from) and he is in a Catholic School now. He is doing well, and can be oppositional if you don't put your foot down. Lucas, 8, was adopted out of foster care from Illinois (yuk...bad state to adopt from) and he was recently diagnosed early onset childhood bipolar (which seems very accurate to us). He is really doing well on lithium and depakote and is in Catholic school and doing great. Nicole, 5, was adopted from the hospital in Rockford, IL and is in kindergarden. She does have dark moments and can be moody, but she is a sweet, beautiful and bright little girl. Dh is 46. Yeah, I'm the old one in the family. Anyone who wants to contact me can e-mail pammar@tznet.com. We are recovering from a tough three months (two bipolar dx.) and changing from homeschooling to regular school. I don't come here every day anymore, but I'm always happy e-mail with anybody