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me, DH and son (age 9). We've successfully battled attachment disorder, now well on the road to dealing with sensory integration issues. I may be biased, but my son is the most amazing child I know.

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Me(41), dh(47), bio kids dd(21), ds(20), adopted kids, dd(8), dd(7), dd(5), dd(17months), ds(17months) and ds( almost 3 months - legal risk foster/adopt). Will definitely be pursuing another adoption when this newest baby is finalized - but who knows when that will be!! But NO MORE BABIES!!! LOL!!! We will be looking at kids 3 and over and preferably GIRLS!

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DH, age 49, me, age 59, adopted daughter, age 13 and another adopted daughter, age 11. I mostly am a lurker. I don't post very often, but I've been reading this board almost from the beginning. It has been a great help to me to know that whatever problems we've encountered with our adoption someone else has bigger problems and another person has the same problem that we have and how they handled it.

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Originally Posted By louise

health issues!

Me, Louise 38, Dh, Pat 44, Alison, 15,(bio) Joshua, 13, (a) Alex, 12, (bio), Kyle, 12 (bio), Kirstie, 12, (a), Olivia, 11, (a), Ben, 7, (a).

3 dogs, 5 cats, a bunny.

Live in the Bay Area, Ca.

Work with Graham (who has been very busy!)

Nice to see so many sign in!

Louise.

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Originally Posted By Ellen

Me, dh randy, new son who has been with us almost 2 months age 12, 2 cats, 2 sc- ss age 17, sd age 20 both in atlanta and 9 previous exchange students around europe!!!! Ellen

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Originally Posted By Debbie

Hello from NY. I've never posted, but I lurk. Trying to learn all I can from you guys, its comformting to know that you are not alone, when you think no one understands you. Been waiting for almost 4 years now and although I tell myself that I should give up, I just can't. I have to have faith that one day it will happen. Thank you for all your wonderful insights.

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Originally Posted By po

We are 60. We have 5 bio between us when we combined forces 25 years ago. Baby is 32. Was looking to adopt, but have decided to foster since the last placement was taken from us. Have fostered for 14 years, had 28 children.

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Originally Posted By Terri

I usually lurk here, but have asked a few questions. I'm 34 and my DH is 39(soon to be 40), our DS 4(yesterday, HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANTHONY), just waiting on a court date to finalize his adoption. Looking to adopt another boy or boys under 5. We have our homestudy sent in on a few boys in OH since December, still waiting to hear if anyone has been picked.

Terri

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Originally Posted By TracyC.

Jeff and I and our four girls ages 4, 6, 8, and 9 are waiting on some boys! We are seeking a sibling group of 2 under age 5.
WE are hanging in there!

Blessings,
Tracy

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Originally Posted By ashley

Ashley (28), Dh (31) and bio Ds (3 next month). We are in coastal MD (which happens to be largely rural) We have been waiting since Oct. 2001 for a placement. We have had several foster children in that time. Several months ago our adoption worker left her job and due to a hiring freeze they haven't refilled her position. We had intended on trying to go to another agency, until we got our homestudy. When we read through it there were at least 50 mistakes. And some were big mistakes, as if the worker made up the information rather than writing what we said. So we have decided to stay with this agency until they get their stuff in gear and fix the homestudy. We don't want this study to go without an agency note that there were serious mistakes. Once that is done we plan to change agencies to a private foster care agency and then hope to foster/adopt a child 2 or under (birth order). We are, however, hoping that we are placed with a friends foster child who, it seems, may be available for adoption within the next few weeks. But to be honest, if that doesn't work out we don't have much hope with this agency. We just hope they get our homestudy fixed and soon!

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Originally Posted By Lara

Did the foster parents ever call the agency? Did you call them as planned? Any news?

Been thinking about you!

Lara

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The worker was out of the office on Friday, but I did talk to the supervisor (who is also my adoption/foster care contact). She gave me the standard, "well we are trying to find a kinship placement first and then if that doesn't work out we would like for the baby to stay in the foster family, but if she does need to be moved we will keep you in mind". I talked to my friend and she said she didn't think that they had any other options with family and she really doesn't want to keep the baby. She also got the impresion that the worker and the supervisor hadn't discussed other options yet. So there is still a little hope, but I think over this week and next we will get a better feeling of this situation being hopefull or not. I am hoping to get a call from the babies worker today. I know that my friend is going to discuss us with her when she speaks to the worker today. I will keep you guys informed.

Ashley

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Originally Posted By Yvette

and darling daughter. She is 30 months old now and has been home for alittle more than a year. For all of the older adults who are wanting to adopt, don't let anyone talk you out of it because of your age. Yes it does take alot of energy to keep up with a two year old, and yes you do have to plan ahead for the possibility that something may happen to you. But you already know that, right? I am tired alot, I have a will and potential caretakers if necessary. I am madly in love with my child and we have bonded completely. I would do it all again, and I just might in the future. She has my undivided attention, which is good because she was failure to thrive and now is gaining weight, getting tall and out-talking every kid in the daycare. She is a joy and we are good for each other. a perfect match in personality and temperment. I have lost weight, eat better and am in better health just for her. She is a blessing and a gift from God. Bet I'm in better shape than alot of youngsters who are adopting!!

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Originally Posted By akat

Me 34, DH 36, DD 16 (in Feb.), DD 8 (adopted), DS 13, DD 3 (surrogate/adopt), Foster son 18mo. Have actively been looking for a medically/physically challenged child,No Luck. Are currently transitioning foster son back to his bio family and it is very painful for us. We have had him for 15 months. We are considering taking break from foster care and slow our search for adoption, so we can have time to grieve our loss and adjust to life without our littlest child. Love to read the posts here, but I am usually just a lurker.

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Originally Posted By Deana

Deana(30)Dh(29)DS(8)DS(6)and DS(3).We are in Nebraska. We had an adoptive placement that disrupted early last month. Recovering from that. No longer actively pursueing adoption. We will continue to foster, mostly emergency placements. May still adopt if something comes up but who knows. Don't plan to look out of state again or look at all, maybe in a few years I'll change my mind on that but right now I think the only way we will adopt is if we get a fos-adopt child or we decide we can afford an infant adoption. Thank you guys for all the support you have provided to us. I still like to lurk and see how things are going for all of you.