[GAMOM75]

No advice. Just wanted to send out hugs. I know this can not be an easy decision for you.

[mypov]

I do empathize with your situation. Four years ago we adopted a sibling group of three. One with sexual reactivity. i then had a miracle surprise baby a year ago after being infertile for YEARS and right in front of me my daughter (the sexually reactive one) will push him over or start to pick him up and drop him. Luckily, none of the kids have threatened to kill him.

The difference I believe between you and I is that I have had time to attach to my kids. When my daughter (adopted at 5, now 9 yrs old) started this behavior my thought wasn't that I needed to find her a new home, but that I needed to 1. Watch her more closely even though she is already on Line of Sight Supervision 2. Step up the therapy 3. Help her to know that I love her no matter what and that I know she missed out on being cared for as a baby but that I would give her whatever kind of baby-care she wanted now. 4. That we need to be gentle with OUR new baby especially since he thinks she is just the greatest big sis ever!

All these things really have helped in the last couple of weeks. I can imagine I would feel the same way you would if I were not attached to her. But I think of all the kids the same in love and attachment at this point- and it is because we went through so many difficult times and SURVIVED that I can finally say that!!! But we are here to support whatever you believe is best for your family! I'm sure you have done and will continue to do everything possible first to prevent disruption! So good luck!!!! And I mean that