[athikers]

I just found out my daughter's birthmom is pregnant again. I'm anger at myself for not asking the county to involuntarily TPR (we did voluntary, with open adoption) so future children would not be at risk. I'm scared for the little baby. I'm sad for my little girl. Aren't kids supposed to get to grow up with their siblings. My daughter has an older brother, now a new one on the way. At least she will (hopefully) know her younger sibling. My son has three older brothers and a younger sister, he will never know any of them. It just makes me sad.

And... I got another batch of crappy news about a former sibling set I fostered. I can't share more than that about it, but suffice it to say, its not been the most uplifting day for me.

Wow, first time I've vented here in a long time!

Oh, and if that was not enough great news for one day. My son's school says he's not autistic! He has a MEDICAL diagnosis of severe classic autism, but he's not autistic? What the heck? I'm very frustrated. Thankfully, he will receive all the same services anyway due to his TBI, I would just like his autism to be acknowledge in case he needs services in the future for that dx. Grumble.

[Barksum]

I love how people (cw's, school districts, etc.) get to pick and choose which dx's they'll acknowledge.

So sad to hear about your former foster kids, and also about the sibling situations. We're there with you.

I am sad about my foster kids who did not go on to good homes. I'm sad because by foster parenting we were trying to make kids' lives better and I still question if we were able to do that to any significant degree.

I've also been upset about the sibling situations for me kids. It is a sad thing that they can't be with their siblings, or even know them. I'm not sure how many they each have.

I do think about it and I am saddened by it, but I use it as an opportunity to pray for each of the kids (even the unknown numbers of sibs for my kids). That's my role, because God hasn't placed me in any other area where I do something different.

[momraine]

My son's school would not accept his aspergers diagnosis when he first got it either. They said all aspergers kids had bad tempers and they had not seen a tantrum. They had no idea how very, very, very hard I had worked with him to learn to control his temper before he started school!

[Lylac]

Hugs Ath! It's crazy how some folks think they know more than the docs.

[chickymum]

So is you DD's bio mom being watched...or will she be after the babe is born? Is she prone to have issues parenting? I really hope that they are on it. And are you able to be close in any way so that you can help her? That would also help your DD to have some kind of a relationship with her sib maybe????

I am sad that you are having a hard time with news about your fosters. That must be so tough.

Hopefully the others will come to their senses soon too.

[athikers]

I did call one of my daughter's workers and report the pregnancy, so mom will have support throughout, which she desperately needs. But support was not enough to keep some really unfortunate things from happening to my daughter... and I don't wish to see the cycle repeat itself. We are asking to be a respite resource for the family. We don't really want another child, but if it comes to the child needing to be moved, we will be discussing it at that time. Biomom's parenting issues will never go away (not the type of thing that can "change") and she will never be able to effectively parent, despite her OBVIOUS love for her children. It saddens me that she's putting another child at risk.

[Nevada Jen]

Ugh. I sorry you are having a rough day and sorry for all the things like this that happen to cause people to have rough days.
But the good news is, the school cured your son's autism!! You probably do need to get the autism diagnosis back on there but its not an emergency and can certainly wait until you are emotionally and mentally back to fighting strength.
Hang in there!

[athikers]

But the good news is, the school cured your son's autism!!

That is hilarious Thank you, that made my day!

You would have appreciated the part where she said "Which part of his brain injury causes him to use mimicking speech like that?" WELL, I don't know, maybe the part of his brain that is AUTISTIC!!!! Hello!

[Nevada Jen]

I hoped you would get it in the spirit is was offered! If its any consulation, my experience has been that if you keep pushing until they are in first grade, the school basically gives up and gives you whatever you ask for. But the early ed people must get special training in telling parents they are wrong cause they sure know how to do it. I find the phrase "Are you on crack?" to be one of the more effective things I have muttered at IEP meetings.

Hopefully today will be a better day.