[shy_bear]

I am feeling VERY overwhelmed!! Since we now have a diagnosis for our son I feel pulled in 20 different directions. I am stressing over therapy; besides in home therapy through EI they want us to do private OT. Can't find an OT that will take our ins. they want $ upfront and I can't afford $100+ a week. I know it is in my head, but I feel like our son has been horrible lately!! Nothing seems to make him happy; hubby keeps telling me he has always been this way I was just in denial!! I am tired, I am worrying about everything; he is only 2 and I can't help but worry about his future!! He has been labeled FASD,SPD, they have concerns over his brain funciton. He is delayed cognitively. He is in the low average for gross motor and speech(which makes NO sense to me. He is 28 mths old and says 40 words) How do you stop worrying and go with the flow???

[Shelly77]

<<Prayers for you and the family>>

Maybe you could try calling the insurance and asking them for a OT recommendation to use that takes the insurance. You might have already done that though.

Try to keep your head up.

[Nevada Jen]

Its really hard to just let go. I think your hubby is right in a sense. Its sort of like right before you get married you realize that your hubby forgets to put the toilet seat down a lot and you realize that it will be like that for the REST OF YOUR LIFE and all of a sudden, it is a BIG deal.

Consider doing OT 30 minutes a shot or an hour twice a month instead to save money.

As to how to stop worrying and go with the flow, you somehow wrap your arms around adjusting while at the same time realizing that nothing has changed from yesterday. You also have to come to grips with the death of your previous dreams and plans for your child. Dreams that were likely formed long before you actually had a specific child. For me, it was not a gradual process but rather a series of being hit over the head with revalations.

Give yourself some credit here. Its only been a couple of weeks since the diagnosis was final. I know it took me a couple of months at least for the reality of the situation to set in and another 6 months before I started to think long term again. The first couple weeks after diagnosis I was very similar to how you are right now. It will get better.

Oh. And I drink pretty frozen cocktails and champagne to cope. It makes me feel carefree and flighty.

[LeighM]

Do you have a program called First Steps in your area? If you are not sure call your local head start program and they can give you the information.

Our daughter had services through this program which is Federally Funded. Our insurance was never involved. They will come to your home or daycare and work with the child.

It might be worth checking into.