[shy_bear]

My son is 2; he is showing some interest in using the potty. He will grab at his diaper when he is wet, but gives no indication when he has pooped. He likes to flush the toilet and loves to watch us go to the bathroom. Every time I change him I tell him I am putting on a clean diaper. His OT was telling me that usually SPD kids are hard to potty train. I don't think we are ready at this point, but by time he is 3 I want him using the potty. We don't think he is going to be able to qualify for EI once he turns 3. He is speech delayed, but is now using 25+ words and combining words. He has had a language explosion and I swear has a new word weekly. Any pointers, tips, or tricks that have worked????

[akg1229]

I work in direct care and when training autistic children who had sensory issues we would sometimes put underwear under their pullups so they could feel when they were wet or dirty. It worked with some kids but not all of them.

[athikers]

Interesting about the panties under the diaper Since I will someday be trying to potty train my kiddo with autism and SPD and.. and... and.

But I have no illusions of training him by 3. I don't even know if I'll have Pixie trained by 3. Its WAY too low on my priority list.

[mommytoEli]

our si kid just trained this summer at 3 1/2. we started and tried more than once way before that....but he just wasn't ready. i think much of it was si related...he could clearly control himself bc at age 3 he told me if i didn't give him a cookie for breakfast he'd pee on my floor. and he did. thanks kid.

our ds biggest issue is he didn't like the way the potty felt. luckily he is super tall and so he was able to learn to pee standing up. that was helpful. the pooping was a bigger issue. that required some tough love, and bribery. we charted his progress and promised him after he stayed dry and clean for three days we could have any kind of party he wanted. he picked superman, but in order to come, he had to surrender all of his diapers...even for night time. he did....and it was a big success for a few days....then we slid again. this time we went for 10 days...we bought 10 hotwheels cars and told him that every DAY he was dry he could have one....well, he thought we also meant night...so that worked well. after 10 days and nights of being mostly dry and clean...it was a habit for him. we've had only a few accidents since. bc of his si issues, they don't bother him...he will just lay in a bed full of pee and not think twice about being surrounded by the wet or the smell. i had to tough love again and tell him that big boys don't pee in their beds, but if they have an accident they have to tell their mom so mom can help. if they don't, they don't get their big boy computer they got at the potty party. for my ds....it really is about training his brain that peeing in his pants is just no longer acceptable, regardless of whether it bothers you or not. kwim? ((the wet undy trick did NOT work for him by the way. )) BUT...he is 3 1/2. and really...anything we did before this was probably a wash because he just wasn't ready.

will your son sit on the potty? if so...i say start sitting him on the potty every night before bath NOW for a short period of time..just to get him used to it....but that never worked for ds...bc he hated being naked and up high and hated the hole under his butt (afraid he'd fall in), and didn't like how the seat felt....so every time we tried that it was like it just made the toilet scarier.

p.s...my side note is that once he was potty trained, i did notice a GREAT reduction in his si issues- way less sensory seeking and freaking out.

[angelkisses0102]

My guy was three years, eight months old when HE finally decided HE was going to be trained. He had moderate to severe sensory issues (was a MAJOR sensory seeker.)

Around age 2.5 he was almost trained but he needed his tonsils and adenoids out...which required an overnight hospital stay. That ended the training...he was no longer interested...plus he stopped going to daycare. I believe going to daycare and seeing the other kids train was the original motivation.

Anyway, we tried EVERYTHING for the next year...I finally gave up and the started the did the undies under the pull up trick. One day, shortly after I started that, he decided he was done with pull ups...and he was...both day and night! That was a little over two years ago and he has had, maybe, a handful of accidents.

Sensory kids are tough...good luck! And hang in there...

[Perfect7]

We potty trained A at 10 years old and it took 1 1/2 months. First we tossed out the pull ups and gave him big boy underwear. Then we gave him LOTS of water and took him to the bathroom every fifteen minutes to go. This went on for a week. The next week we went every 30 minutes and cut down on the water. If he had a pee pee accident we didn't change him and he began to walk around bow-legged so I could tell he was feeling the discomfort of being wet (learned cause and effect). We took him to the potty and told him big boys didn't potty in their pants, and we used the potty chair. This was over and over and over. Interestingly, he never messed himself because I guess that was just too gross. If the day was windy, that was even better and we let him go outside to walk bow legged around the yard. We didn't leave him wet for more than fifteen minutes because we didn't want a rash. When it was time to change him, he got to put his wet clothes in the washing machine, add soap, and turn it on. Next was the dryer, folding, etc. He also then had to bathe himself and get his dry clothes out, get dressed. Of course, all of this was with us assisting. I think he finally realized the discomfort and extra work wasn't worth not going down to the bathroom and it stuck. We limited drinks after dinner and he is now dry over night (that was gradual with fewer and fewer night accidents). The school cooperated and used the same methods there, so that greatly helped.