[Indy]

Well, I inquired on a young man I thought may be a bio relative to my son V. I had not heard anything since my profile and study was sent to the worker last week. We all know how those things can go.

Today, I get home and there is an email from an adoption worker. She informs me that the social worker is headed out to see the young man to see if he will consider placement outside his state???!!!

Whoa. Wait a minute. I know I haven't had a placement in nearly two years but that doesn't mean I am "green behind the ears"!

I drafted an email to the worker, asking for a delay in the presenting of my homestudy to D. I also requested information on him.

Not sure if I am ready for number 11. Definitely not if he is not a good match for the family.

[lucyjoy]

You should know better then to ask questions on teen boys in the system. They'll have him all moved in before you have time to think.

[MO_SingleDad-2B]

Be very carefull if you hear the doorbell ring!

[Barksum]

The postman...er...cw always rings twice!

Seriously though, YIKES! No actual, real contact with you and yet they're giving the kid his hat and a suitcase!

Will be waiting for updates on THIS as it develops!

[Original Mike]

A caseworker who mioves at a spped greater than "glacial"?? Makes me wonder whats going on here.

"Number 11" does have a nice ring to it. But, like you said so many times before, you're "done".

[waited2long]

Well, sheesh! Make up your mind! You did want to hear from them, right? LOL Just kidding.

I hope things work out however is best for you, your sons and this boy and there are no more odd jumps or curves in the road.

[crick]

But is he a bio relative? You know you can't just slide on by this without telling us. Hmph!

So #11, eh? Shoulda known! LOL!

[tybeemarie]

This amazes me--I have NEVER heard of a worker working this fast.

It will be interesting to find out if this is your son's bio brother, and if so, if he's a good fit.

You do know if you get #11, we'll be happy for you, but you also know we'll josh you about it. "I'm done, I'm done," he says. Uh-huh.

We love ya, Indy!

[Indy]

I spoke to the worker. She clarified why they were going out to talk to D, prior to me saying "yes". This state allows the child to make the decision at the age of 12 as to adoption. There is no use in me jumping through hoops and getting excited, if he is not interested in leaving his home state. Makes sense to me.

As of today, I haven't heard anything else.

[aspenhall]

Being interested in leaving the state is a bit more general than being interested in leaving the state with YOU....

[HOPEFULINPA]

I'm seriously dying to know here as well..is he related?????

[MilehighDad]

Indy,
I'm sorry this happened to you. The same thing happened to us. We told our daughter's worker in another state that if her former foster sister was available, we would be interested in finding out more. The next we heard, another worker had already talked to her! And, to make it worse, they asked her if she would be willing to go out of state but told her "you'd like this placement, there's someone there you know." Argh! And, to put the final nail in the coffin, they then squashed the whole thing and told her she couldn't be adopted because she was too old and was going to age out first. Could they have handled it any worse? Now, she's going to age out in six months and move out of the country to live with her boyfriend.