[momraine]

Well, we are home from camp. The week before camp M was getting pretty bad, peeing on the floor, some throwing up, refusing to eat, etc. So we made the decision on Friday that he would stay home. Dh had permission to work from home for a few days. We had decided that if he could not take being home with M he could come to the camp and we would switch places midweek. So Monday morning we leave. Dh calls that afternoon and says M has been a model citizen all day, eating everything he can get his hands on, offering to clean the house, etc. Then Tuesday morning dh decideds that M has been so good they will come to camp. I was pretty sure it was a mistake, but dh was pretty insistant. So we told M that if he threw up, refused to eat or peed anywhere but the toilet or threw a tantrum he would go home. So he does great until Thursday evening, camp ends Friday morning. So dh takes him home right away, that evening. So then Saturday is the 4th, we were cooking out and had fireworks. So he is good all day (was good on Friday too) Then comes supper, we cooked out and gave him only foods he loves. Dh was sitting next to him and said he was doing good and was "almost done". I was sitting in the swing a ways away (not enough seats at the table) So dh gets up and starts on the fireworks telling M he should just finish that last bit so he can participate. (we ate under a shade thing so he could not see them from the table) Ten minutes later M announces he is done. I am busy helping the other kids with sparklers and such and accept it. We finish up the fireworks and I start to clean up and realize that M still has more than half of his food on the plate! (If he had thrown away his paper plate, I never would have known!) This makes me really mad. So I bring the plate in the house and put him in the high chair with it. (he sits in the highchair when he is peeing and throwing up so it doesn't get all over the rest of us, the rest of the time he is at the table) He knows he blew it. I tell him it was a very bad idea to lie. Then he eats it all in like five minutes flat. I watched him this time. Anyway, today since we have nothing fun planned he has not eaten a thing. He had one small drink and won't drink anything else. So he sat in the high chair. He has already peed all over the floor, and complained that it was really hard to do it (he is dehydrated) so there is only a little bit, but he will still clean the floor. For a while he kept saying "Please don't make me go take a nap, please let me stay here. I would rather sit in this chair than take a nap. (when he is below a certain weight he needs naps and can't function without them) He actually would rather be in his room than in the chair, but I guess he was trying reverse psychology, cause he got mad when I said OK, you can stay there. Then he started trying to make deals, saying he would eat if I let him get on the schedule he gets to be on when he is at goal weight. I told him he could easily be on that schedule if he eats normally. He got mad. So it's going to be a long summer. He keeps pointing out that if I had more fun things he would eat. This year he seems to have so much more control over it, he ate normally durning the school year, so he is no longer used to the starvation stuff, so I am just going to let him not eat and see how far he will take it this year. Last year he passed out and that scared him into eating. He's been hospitalized before (more than once before I got him) for it, but I always fear being investigated, cause he would probably tell people we don't give him food or something. But, if he wants to go that far, I will let him.

[lucyjoy]

Too bad your dh didn't listen to you. It would have been good for M to have missed camp.

Sounds like it's going to be a very stressful summer for you.

[momraine]

I think so too. Yep, going to be a long summer. I will be so ready for school to start!

[athikers]

So sorry...

Like I have said however many times... I understand! And food issues SUCK!

We are leaving on a two week trip next week... I really, really don't want to have to tube feed Tucker... he's been doing so great without it for so long. But, its a control issue and with his autism and spd, he is going to have a tough time with the lack of normalcy, so his eating will tank... I will be shocked if he makes it the whole two weeks without tube feeding. We'll see.

And, I agree with Lucy... I think hubby just taught your son that he's a push over and he'll go against what mom says. He should have stayed home.

[kretzklan]

Poo-poo on Dad...didn't help teach the lesson that needed to be learned. Bummer! It's all coming back - bigger bummer. I hope that you can stand the ground and I hope he 'caves' in while he is still safe. I don't have food issues here (except OVER eating) so I really feel terrible for you!

[waited2long]

Hugs MomRaine! Keep standing strong.