[stevenstwin]

I'm feeling angry, yet guilty, and then angry that I've been made to feel guilty! I just got off a lengthy text messaging session with my 18 year old former FS and I'm a bit frazzled. I was away last week, and he sent me a couple of "non texts" ...just "hey". I'll confess I didn't respond because I had a feeling it was leading somewhere....I checked his Facebook status, and he was posting on there about being broke and the bank account being empty. Remember he got a large inheritance in March - but he's NEVER shared the details with me, so I don't know exactly how much it was or if he got it all as a lump sum, or if some is coming in monthly installments. So, I figured he was looking for money or help of some sort...the LAST time he talked to me was on Mother's Day. So we just got into it...he wanted to know why I hadn't responded, I said I was afraid he was going to ask for money - he "sort of" admitted that was the problem. But what it ended up with was me telling him how disappointed I am with his choices, and him telling me that I never really treated him like he was my "real" kid anyway. All the old stuff about how I favour the bio girls. Well, I'm sure you can all identify with how NOT true this is - considering the amount of time and energy I put into him for the 2 years he was here, it is the girls who would have reason to complain! Now, I KNOW I got too far into that conversation, and that it was an attempt to manipulate me into wanting to help bail him out of whatever is going on now. I also know that with an attachment disorder, it's natural for him to view me mainly in terms of "what I can do for him". But it is still frustrating!

[Lorraine123]

I totally understand your frustration. I think its very good that you recognize it for what it is - his attempt to manipulate. At this point, unfortunately, all you can do is set boundaries. And thats hard I know.

[Barksum]

My first response is just...sad. Sad that he's only able to relate to you in such a shallow way, sad that you want what he can't give right now, sad that you feel badly...so, I'm just sad with you. :flowergift

[AmyAnne]

I hear your frustration. HUGS

[kretzklan]

How sad for him that he can't see what you tried to do for him...what you did do for him. Sad for you too!