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06-30-2009, 09:13 PM
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My dinner with the boys...
Well, dinner with the boys went ahead as planned. I got to the group home at 6pm and rang the bell. As the guy showed me in, R came tearing down the stairs, grinning from ear to ear. A was just finishing up his shower, so R and I went out onto the porch.
"Man, I am so glad to see you!" he said. When I asked him why he was surprised, he told me that the staff told him that, in light of their behavior, I might pull out. I told him. "R, I've sat in a room with double murderers, I've been shot at, and I've been face to face with large carnivores. It takes more than some pinhead faxing trumped up charges to a caseworker to scare me off." (I REALLY hope the window was open!) Once A joined us, we went to a pizza place. I asked the hostess for a quiet table and she obliged. The only way I can describe these two is if you've ever been to a place where there is a litter of puppies and the puppies are just all over you. These boys were like verbal puppies in seeking attention. Our conversations went on until just before I had to have them home. It was very frank and open with LOTS of humor thrown in. Just some highlights: When I asked them what they most wanted in a family, A answered: Somebody who'll be there for both of us once we age out. That's all we want." Number of times R said "I still can't believe this is really happening": about 100 Number of times I thought A was going to cry during dinner: 1 Number of times I thought R was going to choke up during dinner: 2 What A is looking forward to most: being able tolive "like a real teenager" What R is looking forward to most: "having a Dad i can stay up late talking to about stuff like movies, history, and just stupid crap." The only time I ever saw anything other than happiness from these two was when they talked about having been in care so long. they talked about how other workers would bring families to the home to meet other kids, but their worker only came for monthly visits. A was especially bitter. he said "When I tuned 18, I jus thought that was it. I'd never have a family. Then, two weeks ago, they start talking about some guy they found." I told him that, if he just dwelt on what he missed out on, he wouldn't be able to see what possibilities lie ahead. Like my grandmother said "You can't look forward and backward at the same time." I don't know how these two are going to make it until Thursday afternoon.
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"Some people march to their own drummer. I have my own orchestra!" Mike: The "Carlisle Cullen of the SNPTF" Single Dad to C (age 21), M (age 19), A (age 18), RC (age 17), and R (age 14) 
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#2
06-30-2009, 09:35 PM
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Mike, I just wanted to thank you for bringing a smile to my face...I love hearing stories like this one. You're on a roll -- you've written some great threads in recent days. I have one question -- will you write my obituary when it's time for me to cross over to the other side? Your writing is superb...
P.S. Have the ghosts been behaving themselves lately?
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 ~~Raven~~What does not kill me, makes me stronger. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche, Twilight of the Idols, 1888, German Philosopher (1844-1900) 
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07-01-2009, 02:55 AM
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Mike - Im so happy you and the boys had a great dinner. They seem really genuine and sincere. Each of you will be a better person for having the other in their life! Please keep all of us posted, as Im sure Im not the only one following the story so closely!!
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Mom to 3 great kids (though they are driving me crazy  ): T - placed 07/28/07 at age 11, adopted 10/10/07, now age 13 - my young man. R - placed 02/01/09 at age 11, adopted 12/16/09, now age 12 - my drama queen. H - placed 10/09/09, preadoptive, now age 18 - my spunky punk.www.myspace.com/mkuhlmann06 and www.facebook.com/mkuhlmann06
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07-01-2009, 08:01 AM
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WOWOWOWOWOWOWOW
I'm so stinkin' excited for you...I seriously login 20 times a day just to see if there's any more to the story!
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8-25-05 Finalized Adoption of 4 yo girl private placement in an Open Adoption. I survived/am surviving Post Adoptive Depression POST ADOPTIVE DEPRESSION?? Join us here! THE TRUST JAR Official LDS beliefs site
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07-01-2009, 08:12 AM
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"verbal puppies"
Love that analogy!
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07-01-2009, 08:14 AM
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I am so happy for you and these boys!
Keep us posted!
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07-01-2009, 09:25 AM
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How beautiful is that!!! Just so happy for you and the boys.
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07-01-2009, 12:31 PM
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 Really happy for all of you.
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If a chicken you wish to fricassee, fry, fry, fry a hen. I used to have a handle on life, but it fell off.
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07-01-2009, 07:43 PM
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Mike - every time I read one of your posts about these two boys, my heart just sings!
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stepmom to DS N (11) mom to DS L (8) and DD M (7), finalized in summer of '08 You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm -- Collette
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07-02-2009, 06:56 AM
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Is today the day?????
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8-25-05 Finalized Adoption of 4 yo girl private placement in an Open Adoption. I survived/am surviving Post Adoptive Depression POST ADOPTIVE DEPRESSION?? Join us here! THE TRUST JAR Official LDS beliefs site
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07-02-2009, 07:02 AM
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How are YOU going to make it through today????
LOL!
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Adoption.Com Forums Administrator - any admin situations or questions, please pm me or email me at admin@adoptionmedia.com Mom to 4 fun loving kids (adopted from foster care) 7 years into our forever family! 
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07-02-2009, 08:46 AM
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Just wanted to wish you all the best for today!
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Wannabe SAHM - DOB 06-30-69 - no children (yet) Still unemployed... Started School for Early Childhood Education September 2009 Currently dating the Daddy of 2 teens & a toddler  Diagnosed with Emphysema in November 2005 TTC on & off since December 2005 06-25-07 FosterCare/Adoption Application Denied Two Miscarriage in 2008 Denied for SSI Disability in August 2009 (Started Appeal in September 2009) OBAMA
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07-02-2009, 09:20 AM
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That is great that you had such a good dinner with the guys. I hope all goes well tonight...just a few more hours!
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Referral of 4 day old BG 4/07/05 Home forever 11/09/05  lovin' family life since June 2006: found a waiting child and starting the process to bring him home born 4/27/03 8/22/07--home April 2009: decided to pursue an Ethiopian adoption for "baby sister" 9/9- CIS approval 9/17- officially on the wait list~hopefully 8-10 months
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07-02-2009, 12:10 PM
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Aren't you picking them up... NOW??!?1
How are things going?
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Mama to Pixie  and Tucker  both two, both adorable, both adopted.
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07-02-2009, 12:18 PM
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My heart is overflowing imagining what thses boys must be feeling/going through RIGHT THIS MINUTE!
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8-25-05 Finalized Adoption of 4 yo girl private placement in an Open Adoption. I survived/am surviving Post Adoptive Depression POST ADOPTIVE DEPRESSION?? Join us here! THE TRUST JAR Official LDS beliefs site
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