[adoptmom2be]

Has anyone had this diagnosis given to your child? Any info you can share would be helpful.
Thanks!

[angelkisses0102]

I am assuming that you mean highly impulsive? If so, both of my kiddos are highly impulsive.

My DD is 7 and just finished second grade...she has ADHD and one of her issues is impulsivity. For her this has manifested in different ways...currently our biggest issue is no filter between brain and mouth. She says things before she has time to think and decide if she should even be saying anything. In the past she had issues with things like taking things (aka stealing.) With her, no dangerous behaviors...luckily.

My DS is 5 and just finished Kindy (for the first time.) He has sensory issues, ADHD-like behaviors and potential prenatal alcohol exposure. When he was younger...we did have safety issues with him. Now he is better and even though he knows he is impulsive...there are often times he simply can not stop himself. I recently saw, read, heard somewhere someone say basically that their child knows they shouldn't be doing something but by the time they realize it...they are already done doing what they shouldn't have/didn't want to do.

Parenting impulsive kiddos can be tough and trying...even though I know they can't help themsleves...some days it is hard to remember.

If you have specific questions...let me know. Hope this helps.

[ajjhmf]

Originally Posted by angelkisses0102

I recently saw, read, heard somewhere someone say basically that their child knows they shouldn't be doing something but by the time they realize it...they are already done doing what they shouldn't have/didn't want to do.

THAT is a pure and simple definition of my son!

[angelkisses0102]

Originally Posted by ajjhmf

THAT is a pure and simple definition of my son!

Mine too...that's why it stuck in my mind!

[adoptmom2be]

This definitely helps - is it something that they say will get better or worse as they grow older? Do they do specific therapy for it? I just haven't seen much on it and an trying to understand how I would best parent the child. Thanks again!

[mypov]

Not everyone agrees with medication but for our daughter with adhd/impulse control issues it has been night and day difference. Before she would bring home behavior cards full of frowny faces and we often had to go to her school because she was throwing violenrt tantrums. Her scariest issue was sexually acting out. We tried behavior modification therapy for two years bc the therapist at the time was so anti meds. It did not work and the more we expected her to be able to control herself the worse she felt and the lower her self esteem got. This last two months of school she has been on concerta and the teachers could not stop raving about her! She was an angel and felt so much better about herself! It needs to be taken in conjunction w therapy though and the days she misses the dose she goes right back to her old behaviors. Anyway, its right for our situation and might be right to at least look into for yours. Good luck!

[angelkisses0102]

Originally Posted by adoptmom2be

This definitely helps - is it something that they say will get better or worse as they grow older? Do they do specific therapy for it? I just haven't seen much on it and an trying to understand how I would best parent the child. Thanks again!

It really depends on the why of the impulse control issues. For my DD with ADHD...vyvanse is a miracle drug. While we will not keep her on drug forever...for now the best thing for all involved is vyvanse. ADHD may or may not begin to disappear as puberty begins.

For DS...who knows what will happen. If he was alcohol exposed..I do NOT expect him to him to 'fully recover.'

There are no hard and fast answers for this...it is really dependent upon the child and the why of the impulse issues. For one of my kids, I expect recovery and for one I don't.

All the best,
Karen

[mrsred]

My dd is almost 13. She still has almost no impulse control without meds, and less than most 13 yr olds when she is on meds. We had her on Vyvansee for about 6 months, but we are back on concerta now, as that seems to help her mor. Our oldest also has issues with impulse control when he is not on his adhd meds. However, his impulses are just dumb things like writing all oer himself, where as her impulses can be much more dangerous or destructive.