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02-01-2009, 06:52 PM
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we cant take it anymore
i have come to decide, today, that this family needs a little respite. little bratty *A* needs to leave this house for a bit. i have taken some days off to give myself a break, but everyone else NEVER gets a break from the RAD girl. she has been in our home for 4 stinkin years and never a break - unless you count visitation with bio gma - which only made things a living h*** when she returned.
my other kids have also had it. they wait until i am not within ear shot and they pin her down and make her scream. not hurting her, just bugging her, and boy can she scream. all day every day this is going on. i dont blame them. she has changed tons over the last 4 years, but she is still a PITB. am i wrong to think that maybe a couple weeks of peace and quiet will heal the house? maybe a few consistent weekends off where we are not dealing with RAD girl?  any thoughts? Denice
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02-01-2009, 07:35 PM
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I don't know about healing it..but it sure would help it. Take some time away from her. Every parent needs a break!
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02-01-2009, 07:38 PM
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It does sound like everyone needs a break. Just be prepared for payback every time you send her. Also, despite what she is doing, the other kids pinning her down is NOT okay and likely adding to the trouble.
Is there a therapist involved that is helping with the issues?
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02-01-2009, 07:39 PM
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RAD or no RAD, all parents need to rejuvenate, but with 4 years of no respite, you are in desperate need of it. The amount of energy that it takes to parent a RAD kid is enormous and you need to take care of yourself in order to keep going. Definitely don't believe you are wrong for thinking you need a couple of weeks or weekends. Go for it!
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02-01-2009, 08:55 PM
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My god woman if you can find someone to take her go for it! We have no one here to take ours and if we did I would take FULL ADVANTAGE OF IT~! Run while you can!
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02-02-2009, 09:25 AM
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Hope you get the respite - everyone seems to need the break.
I hope too, that a qualified therapist is working with you. If you need help finding one that deals with RAD, many here can help you with that.
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