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Old 01-29-2009, 08:11 AM
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No, really. Please just shoot me.

I just got put on leave. I only have a week and a half of vacation time, after that it's unpaid. The investigator assured me this morning when I spoke to her that she would close this as soon as she could since it was so open and shut.

I thought things had been much better with the attorney I work for, but she looked too happy to see me going on leave. I was just getting my head back together and catching up on all my work, too.

I truly believe that they will fire me even though the allegations are false. I was careful to let the managing attorney who put me on leave know that I already had a lawyer involved, so maybe I'll get lucky.

This makes the situation with Cowboy look like a walk in the park. I have never been more miserable or felt more hopeless in my life. The only bright side to the situation is that if I lose my job I can surrender my rights to B, put her back in the system and keep that family from having her.

I need some hugs and I need some prayers. I am not doing well.

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9/26/08 - B called in an abuse report on me because she refused to do her chores and didn't want to get a job. I'm not allowed to require her to do either one.
12/18/08 - B refused to live in my home anymore and chose to return to a former foster family.
1/18/09 - Former foster family refused to keep B any longer.
1/20/09 - Former foster family decided that they would keep B since I was going to place her in a therapeutic shelter and then Job Corps.
1/22/09 - Former foster family called abuse report in on me in retaliation for the loss of their foster license.
1/29/09 - Placed on leave from job with CPS.
2/10/09 - Notified that my employment will be terminated on 2/20/09.
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Old 01-29-2009, 09:13 AM
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I am so sorry. I have been following your story and I just so sorry. You have my prayers.
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Old 01-29-2009, 09:13 AM
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Hugs, prayers, understanding, concern. Praying for a swift resolution to this nightmare. Insanity.
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Old 01-29-2009, 09:46 AM
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What is wrong with your state?! Hello, this kid has history and a therapist that can support the fact that she lies. Why on earth are they acting as if this is some sweet little kid and believing any of this crap?

You know what? You should find a nice place to just finish your book. 3 of my sisters are freelance writers, for two of them, that is their only job. How about marketing? One of my freelance writing sisters owns her own very profitable marketing company that she runs from home(she started doing this when my neices disabilities and the school system clashed).

You might be better off putting B in the shelter and doing therapy with her just to give yourself some back up that SHE is the problem, the enabling FP that lost their license are the problem, and that YOU are NOT the problem.

Hugs and prayers. Hang in there. I know how it feel when one begins to hope that a nice terrorist will drop a plane on them. Sadly, you don't get out of this that easily.
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Old 01-29-2009, 11:04 AM
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OMG - I'm sorry. When you think it can't get worse...
You are in my thoughts and I wish there was an easy answer.
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Old 01-29-2009, 11:23 AM
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Just wanted to let you know that I've been following along and will continue to pray for you. This situation is beyond ridiculous. I am so sorry.

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Old 01-29-2009, 11:59 AM
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I smell a huge lawsuit coming for wrongful termination...


maybe you won't need another job, just live off the interest on your settlement.


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Old 01-29-2009, 01:27 PM
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Like Mike says -- don't quit, let them terminate you. Then file for unemployment and file a lawsuit against the foster family for slander. Also, file against your former employers. Heck, file against whoever -- state/agency -- originally placed "B" with you. They lied when they said she was adoptable.
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Old 01-29-2009, 02:07 PM
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Wow... I'm soooo sorry.

Please look into what Mike and MamaS said. I don't see how they can fire you for an issue that should be private and an accusation, not a conviction (and not even a convictable matter)...???
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Old 01-29-2009, 02:36 PM
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I'm meeting with my friend/attorney in just a few minutes. She has some information for me because I asked her to look for some.

Keep your fingers crossed,

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9/21/07 - Placed for 'transitional visits'.
10/3/07 - Placed officially for adoption.
1/29/08 - Officially my daughter.
9/26/08 - B called in an abuse report on me because she refused to do her chores and didn't want to get a job. I'm not allowed to require her to do either one.
12/18/08 - B refused to live in my home anymore and chose to return to a former foster family.
1/18/09 - Former foster family refused to keep B any longer.
1/20/09 - Former foster family decided that they would keep B since I was going to place her in a therapeutic shelter and then Job Corps.
1/22/09 - Former foster family called abuse report in on me in retaliation for the loss of their foster license.
1/29/09 - Placed on leave from job with CPS.
2/10/09 - Notified that my employment will be terminated on 2/20/09.
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I'm so sorry you are going through this.
I hope the information from her is good.
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I hope you get good and helpful information.
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Prayers coming from here that this is resolved correctly and quickly. (the big jerks, I am sure crick will send her stick your way)
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I hope it's a productive meeting!
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