[Indy]

As I have said before, V's brother aged out of the system last year in December. They played phone tag for a couple of weeks...never speaking directly.

About a week ago, I noticed on V's cell bill a call from WA. It was his brother. I blocked the number, as I have told him that the cell is not to be used for calls with his brother. It has always been understood that the land lines were for calls to WA.

Today, he sent a message to his brother, claiming that I had deleted the number and that I was trying to keep them from talking. It is true, I don't want them to talk...but I blocked the number on his phone for breaking the rules. I spoke to V about the message to his brother. He was mad at me for blocking the number! He broke the rules, not me. I have always told the boys....if you don't like the rules on the cell phone...don't take the phone! Cheaper for me!

V claimed he didn't have the number and it was my fault. So, I accessed the phone bill and called his brother. At first, it was awkward as V has fed him some crap. Once we cleared up a few things, he was fine.

I then went in the house and handed the phone to V. He asked "who is it?" I just walked away. He spoke to his brother for less than 2 minutes. I was dumb founded. I asked about the length of the phone call. He said that he would call him later. Well, it is later and he hasn't called him. The way he was acting, he wanted to talk to his brother badly.

What the heck? I'm confused? He got what he wanted....and still isn't talking to him.

[skirbo]

Maybe it's like with B and only wanting something (the former foster parents) because she knows I don't want her to have it. As soon as she gets it and there is no battle over it anymore, she no longer wants it.

This is my brain on teenagers. Any questions?

Sarah

[lucyjoy]

You want him to make sense? A clear sign that you need more rum.

I quit trying to figure out the why's, it just gives me a headache.

[Original Mike]

I bet that he DOES want to talk to his brother later, when there is no chance of you listening or interrupting.

I'd be watchful. I think they may be up to something.

Sorry, just my paranoid nature I guess.

[Barksum]

I can't wait till all three of my boys are teens. (They will be all teens at the same time! WHAT were we thinking?!) So anyway, Ds1 was disassembling one of the stereo speakers. ?! When asked why he would do something destructive like that, he said he was just trying to make it match the other speaker that was broken. (rowdy kids + speakers = broken speakers) The sad thing is that I knew what he was going to say before he said it. I'm able to understand his mind. I'm scared.

So just knowing why a kid does something doesn't mean it will make sense or give you any feelings of closure and understanding.

And I agree with Mike. V doesn't want you to know what the conversation with M is about, or that he's had it at all.

[SAHmom]

I quit trying to figure out the why's, it just gives me a headache.

I totally agree with Lucy especially when we are referring to teenagers!!!

[waited2long]

Darn... I though the lack of communicating with his brother was helping V to become his own person and that his behaviours were improving... Is he backsliding in other ways too? (I hope not)

[Lorraine123]

I agree with Mike. V does want to talk to his brother. It could just be that he wants to touch base with him, or it could be something is going on. Just watch.

[kay]

A bit late. I agree that he wants to contact, but without you knowing anything about it. I'd keep my eyes open, because something's going on. (As you know - you have great instincts!)