[sassafras]

Just for today. Tomorrow will be a new day. The oldest has let her grades plummet to not even a B average. She will never get scholarships, never be able to pay for college and of course it will be all my fault.

The Freshman just doesn't care, is a smart *** and embarassing for the way he talks to adults.

The 7th grader steals from me, steals from school lost and found, does what she wants when she wants, doesn't ever wash her clothes including UNDERWEAR and wears them dirty.

The 6th grader is wondering why I'm sitting around crying and upset.

I hate my life today and everything in it.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[kretzklan]

I'm so sorry today is a terrible day. There are just times that our children are not lovable and when it happens with all of them at once, it can be overwhelming! I hope that tomorrow is a new day and a better one!

[sassafras]

Then I feel guilty for feeling this way!

[kretzklan]

Oh yes, I ride the guilt-go-round often as well. Jump off now - don't wait for it to stop...tuck and roll!

[Barksum]

What?! Your life is similar to mine?!! I thought I was the only one. ((hugs))

My kids have different issues, but they are aggravating just the same. (Apples and oranges, but still fruit!) Really aggravating. And then there is that certain faction of society (at least in my social circle) that believes if you are just consistent and don't allow your kids to behave in certain ways that then the kids won't behave in those ways. Sigh.

It is embarrassing and frustrating. Sometimes I just want to run away. Far away. Let someone else handle the mess. I want sleep, appreciation, and some immediately measurable reward for my effort.

[Crissy011]

Like you said, tomorrow is another day.....Sorry you are feeling this way today, but isn't so great to have a place to vent!? Hope tomorrow is MUCH better!

[sassafras]

Barksum: Exactly. I guess I have to really lower my standards. I didn't think they were that high. Do you chores, get good grades, be polite to adults, don't steal from me etc!

[aspenhall]

I would work on the stealing thing first....that will land her in jail in the future, where the others will be less dramatic results of her actions.

[SAHmom]

Leca,

[sassafras]

Unfortunately it did NOT get any better.. Day off of school, fights, headlocks me and dad both called at work. etc.

[skirbo]

I'm sorry. I hope things get better soon.

Sarah

[SAHmom]

Were the behaviors from one child or all of your kids?

Hope tomorrow is better!

[trixila]

There must be something in the air/water today. My son had a rough morning, we left for school with him in tears. Starting to reconsider doing what the other parents on my 'parents of children with adhd' board do: wake him up at 5:50 to take his meds, let him sleep for 30 minutes, then start our day. My four year old has dropped her nap and has begun displaying some very difficult behavior (are the problems from her prenatal drug exposure starting to manifest?)
I actually started to cry while I was doing the elliptical machine at the Y, simply overwhelmed and ever so wanting/wishing that I was raising two perfectly normal children. The endomorphins kicked in, I felt better, and we had a very nice late afternoon and decent evening.
Tomorrow is another day. I'm not depressed, don't want to go on meds myself, but every once in a while, think about how nice it would be to take a mother's little helper to get me through the rough spots.

[aspenhall]

I couldn't have survived the first 2 years if I hadn't had a chemical balancer...nothing wrong with getting help when you need it.

[tjsjohanna]

leca,
I've had many of those days. I'm sorry and hope it helps to know that others are thinking of you. It goes against all that we think we know about parenting, to parent special needs kids. You can do everything right and still have the wrong outcomes. It's a particularly difficult lesson in the principle of individual agency. You can persuade and consequence and demand and punish and still those kids will do what they want to do. I just keep telling my kids I'm trying to help them learn the things they need to be happy. And if they keep choosing negative behaviors they have only themselves to blame. It think it goes over their heads! but I'm a big believer in being straight with my kids.