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12-03-2008, 03:42 PM
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Respite for the school day?
Has anyone used a respite provider (training in AD) as an "alternative" to school? Both my kids use school as a complete and total manipulation, lying, cheating, stealing session. My AT said that they should go to Miss XXX's house since they can't handle the privilege of school. I called the lady and she said that they would be doing homework all day and if they didn't comply with that they would be cleaning etc. It basically sounds like my house after school. I just don't know what to do anymore. Heck, some of you are so good - you may do this for others??? I know there aren't any miracles, but I feel like sending them back to school day after day of bad behavior is ridiculous. I could keep them home and do the same thing - separate them and do homework all day...but I feel like that might be punishing ME! If I could homeschool I would - but I am a woman who knows my limits and when they leave for school each morning I have an hour or two of relief before I start thinking about what they are going to do to screw up today!
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#2
12-03-2008, 04:37 PM
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I say give it a try.
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12-03-2008, 07:57 PM
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Can you do this where you live? You need to know what the laws regarding home based schools are. I did home school mine because school was unhealthy respite from working on their lives and the school just didn't get it and fed the attachment disorders.
Has this person done this before? Are there other parents you can talk to for reference? Done correctly, this type of respite/school can be very good.
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12-03-2008, 08:36 PM
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She is licensed and has trained extensively with AD kids - she is not a licensed school provider - but it's not a long term thing...only 2 days for us.
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12-03-2008, 09:05 PM
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Quote:
You have nothing to lose. What's happening now isn't working. I hope this does.
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12-03-2008, 09:15 PM
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Since you say it's short term and the therapist suggested it, I say try it.
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12-03-2008, 09:22 PM
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I have done it.
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12-04-2008, 02:30 PM
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They are there - dropped off this morning with lots of school work and I really liked the set up and the caretaker. They're spending one night and coming home after school time tomorrow. I must say that the thought of one night with no drama is really exciting for me...and I'll get to spend some time with DS1 - again, with no drama!
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12-05-2008, 11:53 AM
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I can relate...
....one night of peace and quiet would be heavenly. I remember when J3 and C were younger. They were a handful at the ages of 9 and 10. I cherished my "dad's night out" (still do) and when they spent a night at friend's house.
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12-05-2008, 12:47 PM
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So how were the kids when they came home? I'm imagining there was some regression, but as a parent of a RAD kiddo who went to respite, there's less drama regarding respite every time he came back.
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12-05-2008, 01:05 PM
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I think it kind of sounds like it would be nice!
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12-08-2008, 09:57 AM
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How did the school repite go? Did you get backlash behaviors? Hope you got a nice break. This parenting thing is hard and getting a chance to have some time and space to yourself is so needed. Hope things went well. Let us know.
Keep posting. This parenting can be very isolating and it helps to know there are others who have done this(at least it helps me).
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