[kay]

I typed almost this entire saga, then hit some mysterious key and it all vanished! I'll try again.

I sent C on a church trip this weekend, and went home to help with Mom. She has severe arthritis in her hip, and is meeting with a surgeon next week to see about a replacement. We spent Saturday morning at urgent care getting her first a pain shot, then a prescription for some drugs - which, so far, are working. And that was the easy part!

C got a letter from some attorneys Friday (yes, I opened it - I open anything legal that comes his way!) His older sister A aged out of the system last year, pretty promptly got pregnant, and in July had a beautiful baby boy. I prayed that somehow, some way, she would be able to find it in her to be a good mom and provide a loving family for this child. Well, apparently not. The papers were a notification of a guardianship hearing next Monday. It's the boyfriend's parents. I have no idea what's happened, where A is, if the baby is ok. And my first and very strong impulse is that I want to adopt and raise the baby. I know I can't, and it wouldn't even be a good idea to try - but all weekend I've been wishing. Amazing, since newborns have never been my dream (and 3 months is certainly pretty darned close to newborn). My cousin did me the huge favor of laughing at me when I told her about the situation and my wishes! But what I want, more than anything, is that this baby boy have a stable life, and not be subjected to the same cycle that so damaged both A and C. That seems to be starting up right now, already. My heart aches and I just want to somehow make everything all better. Anyway, I've been leaving messages with the boyfriend's parents (that's the only number I have for A) asking what's going on. I told C that if for some reason we should be at the hearing, he can come too - but I can't imagine why he was even sent the notice.

So I dither and daydream and dry laundry - because tomorrow is Monday and work comes no matter what else is going on (and yes, on the whole that's a Good Thing!!)

[Barksum]

(((hugs))) Kay. We've BTDT about the wishing for the baby and hoping to break the cycle somehow. I hope that the boyfriend's parents are a stable and loving home and that the baby can stay with them for the next 20 years.

Hope your week goes smoothly and that Good Fairies leave chocolates on your pillows, or do the laundry or dishes, or something. (I like to dream BIG. ROFL)

[athikers]

I'm gonna talk crazy here and say that if you think you might want to raise the baby (even if you can't imagine how right now) you should go to the hearing. Even if only to give you an opportunity to talk to the grandparents and see what is happening and gain some peace of mind.

[ranoutofnames]

I know how you are feeling. My C has two siblings both in a parental way.

The oldest (a brother) is 18yrs old and his girlfriend is due to have a baby right after he turns 19yrs old. Last night he was mentioning he might need to get another part-time job since he gets only a few hours at his current part-time job ... why he doesn't seek a full-time job I just don't get.

The next sibling (a sister) is 17yrs old and will have her baby around the time she turns 18yrs and ages out of the system. Baby Daddy (for lack of finding a better term at the moment) is court ordered to stay away. Seems he has a death threat out on the baby while still unborn.

There is very little hope either of these two babies will have much of a chance or life since none of the families involved are stable.

... and then C wonders why I won't let him go out on dates unsupervised while in my house!

Also, for C, if he graduates he will be the first in his family (on both sides) except for two cousins whom he's never met... to get a high school diploma... he blames me for making him go to school and grounding him when he screws up...