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06-22-2008, 08:00 PM
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My Little Singing Angel
I had mentionned in chat on Friday that I was being driven batty by B, who has FAS. Basically my fustration at her not being able to follow directions...forgetting things...sending her to get her shoes and she's walking around in circles...
Part of this is she has never been expected to do these things for herself...and I'm determined to make her try!! So some of it is a battle of wills and time...she knows if she waits long enough someone will do it for her..but then I feel bad because some of it her inattention and distractability....agghh..I'm going off topic LOL My little angel...loves to SING!..She can't always remember the words, but she is good singer and is always humming to herself. Our church choir director heard her one day and asked me if she might be interested in singing occasionally with the choir. B enthusiastically said yes, although she did ask if it would be alright if she covered up her eyes with her hands cause she's a little shy LOL...She has since sung with the choir..and yes..usually has her hands over her eyes.. Tonight my little angel had a solo...yes my shy, FAS angel..She took part in a special concert which was a fundraiser. She had a special cassock (hemmed to the max cause we couldn't find one short enough) and with her white surplice over top...it was easy to pretend she was an angel... I was really afraid she would be scared...she is really shy...but she came right to the front of the choir..and sang out " Lord, Thou hast been our refuge".....and then was joined...with the rest of the choir....and her voice was the last heard...with "Lord, Thou hast been our refuge"..I have never seen her so confident before.. And mommie was in the back..crying like a baby..
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#2
06-22-2008, 08:14 PM
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Aww
 I know your one proud momma!! And you should be!
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#3
06-22-2008, 09:22 PM
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Yeah! She did it!
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06-22-2008, 09:44 PM
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What a great story! You made me hear her voice - and feel your tears of pride. Congratulations to you both!!
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#5
06-22-2008, 10:04 PM
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oh wow hydroxy... I wish I could have been there to pass you the tissue! That is so awesome!
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J, bio son: born Feb '96 T, adopted daughter: born July '96, adoption finalized Dec '06 E adopted son: born Sept '99, adopted November '05 C, foster daughter, with us for 10 months in our home, with us forever in our hearts born Sept '03, placed with us August '07, moved late June '08 [I"]Jeremiah 29:11for I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.[/color][/i]
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06-22-2008, 10:14 PM
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Yay I love it that kids even after some scary moments in their lives can find things within themselves that make them shine!!!!
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Bio son - born 95 Adopted daughter - born 00. Came to us from foster care when she was almost four Bio son - born 01 Crazy husband - thinks he is a kid too www.ourlifeadoptionjourney.blogspot.com
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#7
06-22-2008, 10:44 PM
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Your story brought tears to my eyes. I can only imagine how amazing it must have sounded to you.
Congratulations at finding your daughter's voice!
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Mom to J - 4 year old fisherman L - 2 year old climber Foster mom/hopeful adoptive mom to A - 5 year old GIRL!! 12/06 heard about "A" being placed in foster care 01/07 contacted SW to become prospective adoptive parents 04/11/08 Mom relinquished rights 4/24/08 Officially licensed as foster parents 06/02/08 TPR hearing. 06/6/08 Spent the weekend with "A"!! 6/20/08 We go to bring her home!! (Assuming all of the proper paperwork is in place). After 6,000 phone calls and a lot of begging to get our fingerprints finished, we got to keep our promise and bring her home!! 
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06-23-2008, 06:01 AM
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That's awesome! I am sure it will help her self confidence.
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Lorraine   Mom to:  S- my 15 year old son -Aspergers, but doing great! W - my 13 year old son- caretaker to his siblings. P- My 9 year old Russian princess, two prosthetic legs, dancer extrodiaire Home June 2000 M- 8 No legs, one arm, fast wheels!Home November 2006 from Poland!  Dh - Often just another child, but mostly my best friend and a pretty understanding guy.A clean house is a sign of a broken computer Moderator : Children with physical disabilities, Polish adoption and Russian Adoption. http://momrainefamily.blogspot.com/
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06-23-2008, 08:26 AM
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Awesome
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06-23-2008, 09:54 AM
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Awww that is so awesome!
Good job B!
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Adoptive mom to two sisters ages 7 & 10 from PA Fostercare 10/18/04 App Submitted 11/6/04 Adoption classes completed! 12/8/04, 1/13 & 1/27/05 Homestudies completed 3/15/05 Approved Homestudy "S" and "C" to moved in 6/17/05! TPRed 1/5/06 ADOPTED 7/11/06! (at age 5 & 8)
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06-23-2008, 10:44 AM
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That's COOL!
I wonder if she would do better if you SANG the instructions to her and had her sing them back to you? It wouldn't help the battle of wills, but it may bypass the disconnect in her brain?
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#12
06-23-2008, 12:40 PM
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Congrats on your little angel singing!
Our son with probable FASD sounds very like your Dd. I get so tired of repeating instructions! LOL We bought a polaroid camera and took pictures of him doing his chores in the hopes that having a visual reminder would help him get through his chores more easily. (he's very visually oriented) NOPE! He's also very (very) concrete and he took one look at the photo of him doing his chores and went to change his clothes into the clothes he had on when we took the picture!  Once we explained that he didn't have to wear the same clothes we tried again with the chores. NOPE! He was looking and looking in the dishwasher, but couldn't find the spoon he was removing from the dishwasher in the photo. Ack! So we ditched the Polaroid and I started pinning pictures of stick figures doing chores on his shirt cuffs. LOL Now he can do one chore without such constant reminders, but I do have to prompt with suggestions that he finish his job, etc. It has gotten better...even if it isn't all resolved.
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06-23-2008, 04:20 PM
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Oh Barksum...I feel your pain..I so so feel it...B has probable FAS too! LOL
We have tried pictures, but we have the same problems as you...She gets more confused because the picture doesn't match what she is supposed to be doing.. We are using a strips with velcro pictures..arggh I forget the name of the pictures..They are standardized and I can print them and laminate them. It sort of works...kind of hit and miss.. Aspen I was thinking I could sing the directions to her...doesn't work..she just looks at me puzzled and says..that's not the words to that song! oh well...
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Adoption finalized: Racheal - 12.99 Constance - 8 Tiffany - 6 Rosalind (Rosie) - 3 ~We are not called by God to do extraordinary things, but to do ordinary things with extraordinary love. ~ Jean Vanier ~
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#14
06-23-2008, 05:08 PM
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Doesn't that make it all worth it--at least for the next day or two???
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If I'm guessing correctly you're talking about PECS, they are often used with children who have autism. They are less detailed, so hopefully you could avoid the overly concrete thought process! Never tried using them with children who have FAS, but I can see how it may work for some. If they have trouble with symbolic representation it may not work as well. Google "Free PECS" you can find several websites that have them available.
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06-23-2008, 05:41 PM
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Could you do a visual checklist for each chore?
OR, give her a ticket book/punch card and as each task gest completed she comes to you for a punch/signature/sticker type thing and you give her the next set of instructions? I've used pecs and they are like a visual sign language for the child to show YOU what it is they need/want to say.
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8-25-05 Finalized Adoption of 4 yo girl private placement in an Open Adoption. I survived/am surviving Post Adoptive Depression POST ADOPTIVE DEPRESSION?? Join us here! THE TRUST JAR Official LDS beliefs site
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