you are never going to believe this!!!

arkansas parent · #1 06-20-2008, 08:12 PM

I just picked up a one day old baby boy!!!!!

His mom signed her rights away and bio dad was a one night stand/affair and she doesnt even know his name. He is of coarse a legal risk, but the adoption specialist is sure bio mom will not change her mind.She did not even want to see him or name him.
I never dreamed we would be picking our next child up from the hospital and get to name him.
I had and hour and half from the time I got the call untill I needed to pick him up and have a name for him.

Kansas Girl · #2 06-21-2008, 05:57 AM

wow - congratulations - I hope everything works out!

Fran

EZ2Luv · #3 06-21-2008, 08:24 AM

Poor little guy, I pray that his Bmom at leasts gets to see him and hold him to say hello and good bye to him. I live with the thought of the woman who gave birth to me not even wanting to see me or hold me and that is the worst feeling of rejection in the world. I do not think I could ever forgive my bmom for that. I have forgiven her for many things but not that.

Not trying to rain on your parade, but my Bmom refused to see or hold me and it makes me so sad. I am sure you will love on him and care for him, but his momma is going to have to live with the consequenses of her actions for the balance of her life. She at least needs that closure.

EZ

Lylac · #4 06-21-2008, 11:37 AM

Congrats!!! So what did ya name him?

arkansas parent · #5 06-21-2008, 12:11 PM

Alexander Cole
We are going to call him Alex.

Mkuhlmann06 · #6 06-21-2008, 02:37 PM

Congrats on the placement... and I like the name Alex

TxMom65 · #7 06-21-2008, 06:16 PM

What a beautiful name. I know your home is such a flurry of excitement.

arkansas parent · #8 06-21-2008, 06:59 PM

Well our home was full of excitement until my stupid sister opened her big mouth. She started ranting about how it was not fair for the biodad since he may not even know about the baby. And keep saying it was a bad sign that the bmom didn't want to see him. She said bdad can come back years later and take him away. And if bmom changes her mind I will never now if he is safe. Then she kept saying his color was "off" so he must be jaundice. HE IS BIRACIAL!!
Of coarse she knows it all because she seen it on Dr Phil. (She was even tring to quote Dr. Phil)
She also wanted to know what I had bought for Alex and said "well I would not buy anything else since you might not get to keep him.
Does she not think I am not very worried that we might lose our sweet baby boy. I have only slept may be 2 hrs total since we got him.
I am going to tell her next time she calls that all that matters is that "HE IS MINE AT THIS MINUTE. and I will not let the what if's keep me from loving/spoiling him.
By the way sis always gets MAD when some one has a baby. She thinks no one can care for a baby except for her.
Thank God for caller ID because I will be screening my calls

Kansas Girl · #9 06-21-2008, 07:20 PM

idn't family fun sometimes?!

I am taking an upper level math class this summer (Diff. Eqn 2) and it's a bear because: 1)calculus, diff eqn 1 and all that was 25 yrs. ago, and 2) it's a semester crammed into one month. [yes, I'm insane, but let's not hijack AP's thread!]. A lot of people, including some of the young students in the class, have told me they admire me for doing this. (the instructor is just a math snob though he is pretty helpful, though not really supportive of what I am doing). When I talked to my younger sister, she asked me how I did on my test (not so well....what did you expect given 1 & 2 above?!). She proceeded to tell me all this stuff I needed to do....could I retake the test, can I get help from the instructor, on and on. DUH! How about a simple, wow that must be hard....hang in there you'll get it.

so, anyways, I digress. Enjoy your new son!

Fran

***momraine*** · #10 06-21-2008, 08:17 PM

Congratulations! I love the name, ignore your sister and enjoy this time, newborns are so much fun!

Barksum · #11 06-21-2008, 09:31 PM

WOW!! Congratulations! That is an exciting turn of events.

Looking forward to updates.

PS Ignore sis. When you speak with her again in six months (ok, you should talk to her sooner, I suppose) you can just happily repeat things such as, 'Alex is a joy to have in our home', or 'We are tickled pink to have Alex as part of our family', to every negative comment she has. If she's quoting Dr. Phil she doesn't have enough to occupy her time.

Dr. Phil is a pet peeve of mine, especially since 'thoughtful' people have suggested that we take his parenting advice for our kids. (Hello?! The guy is on daytime TV, people!) It doesn't matter that our kids have special needs and developmental delays. Dr. Phil can take care of it all - long-distance, no less! - and without ever having to meet them.

Lylac · #12 06-21-2008, 09:43 PM

AP I love the name!! I agree ignore sis (your twin right) I recall from your pevious posts that she really doesn't show much excitement for anyone but herself.

Love him and spoil him. Try to get some rest, I know it's hard to do right now. And I'd be Oh so broke buying new baby stuff

arkansas parent · #13 06-22-2008, 06:19 AM

I thought I had everything I needed. I was wrong. I ran out of clean recieving blankets and bottles.
We didn't have anything when we got the call. We had enough time to stop at walmart and grab a car seat and a pack of onecies (sp?). After we got him we went to Target to buy him something to sleep in and anything else I thought I needed for a few days. I forgot how much stuff a little baby needs.
DH and I almost got in a fight about circumsizum (i'm too tired to spell check

). He got online and watched a video the next thing I hear him saying is NO ONE IS GOING TO DO THAT TO MY BABY!!!
T was very excited until he seen baby Alex pee on himself while I was changing his diaper in the hospital parking lot. Did I mention I have NEVER changed a baby boys diaper. That first diaper change was interesting

waited2long · #14 06-22-2008, 07:52 PM

Congratulations on your new son!!! You must be thrilled beyond belief!!! He sounds wonderful, dirty diapers, fights over circ'ing and all!!!

As for the Bmom not wishing to see him, this may just be her way of making it easier for her to cope with signing over her rights. I cannot imagine the anguish she may be feeling, I hope she is able to get through this and does not live the rest of her life regretting her decision. My mother was adopted and I would hate to think that my bio grandmother spent her life hurting.

I think your sister needs to be reminded of that old adage "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all"... Sheesh! I thought some of my family were clueless!

Oh, and, a BABY BOY!!! I WANT ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!

kay · #15 06-22-2008, 08:33 PM

Congrats to you and to baby Alex (I love the name, too). Wishing you all the best, and yes, do ignore your sister!!!

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