[AmyAnne]

To the mean Mommy/Daddy club. (For newbies, this is a feature that pops up intermittently. Surely there is something YOU thought was completely rational that you said or did, and your children thought it was the meanest thing ever! ) So what have you done to earn your title this week?

I was a REALLY MEAN MOM today.

First off, I took kiddo to the mall for an item and I explained we would not be doing a bunch of stuff at the mall ,we would get that one item and leave. And then I ENFORCED THAT STATEMENT at the mall. I would not allow him to get Taco Bell because we had eaten lunch before the mall. I also would not let him see the item we bought (He's dyeing his hair blue for the summer. We went to get dye) because he snatched it from my hand while I was trying to read the directions.

To top it off, we got home, he went bike riding with his pal B. He is well aware that the consequence for riding a bike with no helmet is 2 weeks' loss of the bike. I was mean because I enforced this, even though he wore his helmet for the first 5 minutes of the 40 minutes he was out. I then refused to let him go to L's house because he would not give me a straight answer on where L lived and what the boys were doing. THEN I had the gall to ask his friend where L lived!

I would not drive him to Blockbuster tonight, and he had to settle for watching a movie we already owned.

then, I would not let him have potato chips after supper because we'd already had fries with supper. I did not know this, but offering fruit, veggies, yogurt or wheat thins is actually considered "starving" your child!

[mrsred]

I was a mean mom when I took all three kids to Walmart to buy a birthday present for J's freind and would not buy anything for any of my three. Then when we went to the deli to get something for lunch and dd tried to order enough food to feed ten kids I said no, she could not order four different entrees! And THEN when she argued with me I said Enough, and walked away and we went home for pb&j sandwiches! Since T screamed at me all the way home I wouldn't even make her sandwich and she had to make her own!!! How horrible of me.
Tonight E thought I was a terribly mean mom when he came down asking for desert and I told him that when he ate all the oreos off the top of the oreo cake (he doesn't eat cake), that counted as his desert and he couldn't have anything else.
And J thinks I deserve the mean mom award because I confiscated his mouse and keyboard after telling him to turn off his computer for the fourth time today. It is way out of line for me to expect that his bed shoudl be made and his dirty clothes picked up before he starts messing around on the computer.

[momraine]

I had the nerve to give M chocolate pudding with his lunch and he burst into tears! He likes chocolate pudding. He had a small serving of spagettios with meatballs (one of his favorites) three potato chips and the small serving of pudding. He started crying and telling me he could never eat that and that it was too much. The other kids are all asking him what is wrong with him to cry because he has chocolate pudding for lunch! W was laughing his head off, he is overweight and so he does not get high fat foods at all. M kept focusing on that pudding saying he could not eat it. He had finished the other food. (OK he had eaten half of it and tossed the other half on the floor)
Last night he informed dh that I was the worst mom ever because I have told him that everytime he throws up (lately he waits till he has one bite left) he will get more food and one day of being grounded from TV and video games. See when I gave him his supper last night I told him he should eat becuase I had a suprise after dinner. He decided to stare at it and refuse to eat. So an hour later when I said whoever was done eating could get in the car to go see Kung Foo panda he had not yet taken a bite. He could not beleive it when I took them and he had to stay home. (dh was home with him but ignoring him) So after the movie the other kids get home, talking about how funny it was. He gets mad and throws up. Then he informs me that he is not going to eat so I might as well just put him to bed. I told him that I had taken a nap that day so I was ready to stay up all night with him. He told dad that he was sure that one day I was going to give up and send him to bed like they did in the orphanage. Dad informed him that he was not in charge and reminded him that I have never let him just go to bed, even when he screamed for hours "I want to go to bed" or when he stayed up all night. I told him I had a good book and I had the big tv all to myself. I made myself a cup of chocolate milk and got a snack and settled down in the living room. He sulked and cried for a while and then started eating. Then he told me ha ha, you can't watch the rest of your show now, you have to go to bed. I told him nope, I am in charge, I can put you to bed and stay up and watch my show. (it only had fifteen minutes left) So I put him to bed and left the TV on (his room is next to the TV room) closed his door and then went and did some laundry and other things, leaving the TV on till he fell asleep. (it was 2 in the morning by then) He is having a hard time with not being in control. Anyway, now the kids are all joking saying yep, mom's mean alright, she made him eat chocolate pudding. We skipped church this morning and he is mad. He figured he could stall on breakfast till we had to leave. However we changed to a bigger church and I don't teach Sunday school anymore, so I can just stay home whenever I need to. So now he is mad that he missed Sunday School. He is also missing going out to eat after church and becuase he is still sitting there and it's almost noon, he will not get to play with his brothers this afternoon, but will have to rest in his room to conserve his energy since he has not had enough fuel.

[chickymum]

My daughter thinks I am mean because her dirtbike is broken and she has to ride on the back of my quad instead when we go for a ride. So sorry I didn't go and buy her a new bike a minute. Oh boy waaaaaay to spoilt.

[hydroxybutane]

Nope, nope! Today, I win the MEAN mommie award...for my 3 year old M Hehehehe...Clothes must still be worn, even if is hot out! Her fine motor skills may not be that great, but she can strip down and out of her diaper in 10 seconds flat!! Today, she got to go to church in backwards coveralls (shorts) and a blouse, with the buttons in the back...

She did try...and she was NOT happy with me...she kept signing no at me..and grunting ROFL...I was trying not to laugh...R was dieing laughing...

So..I'm sure in M's mind..I am the MEANIEST Mommie..for making her wear clothes

[crick]

I agree...you are all the meanest moms I've ever seen! My gosh!

[Tudu]

My son attacked me today preadoption style b/c I asked that he p/u the couple of toys he left out. He went off on me and began throwing buckets of toys at me. Now I can be patient but after 4 buckets and 3 big stuffed animals I stepped in to "discuss" the fact that he was acting a fool. He took that opportunity to start kicking my shins and wrapped his tiny arms around my ankles causing me to fall nearly on top of him. Now that was seen as an attack on him and he went all out to pay me back. We ended up in a restraint for about 30 minutes before he was safe enough to release.

R has a PTSD moment nearly every time he has an episode and ends up exploding herself. This time she started yelling at me to let him go and she only loves her real mom b/c she never held him to the ground. By the time he was done she was in full swing and started kicking me until I had to hold her down. The best part is I told everyone, including my DH, that I had him under control and to go outside so when she went off they were clueless. She raged for over an hour trying to bite and kick me. SHe screamed some interesting things, "you only love your real kids" (all my children are adopted so I told her that was true, later explaining she was my real kid), "I never loved you, I just wanted to have food", "you are not allowed to hold me down, you are a meanie head", "my real parents are nicer than you", and "I want to go live in jail with my real parents." Poor girl spent another hour crying it out in my arms. She has been up my rear since.

[Perfect7]

I win the mean mom award because I make S-12 do pre-algebra for an hour each day through the summer so she won't get D's like she did last year. I also made H-8 pull all of her wadded up clothes out of her dresser drawers, fold them neatly, and put them back up. She said it wasn't fair because she wasn't grounded and had to do all of that work. I told her I wasn't grounded, either, but had to do it every day.

[stevenstwin]

I was a mean mom to my bio-D yesterday. It was her birthday party - I invited 8 children, planned out games and activities and spent 3 hours entertaining. My older daughter baked an "Indiana Jones" hat shaped cake. My husband cooked barbecued hot dogs and hamburgers for the guests to eat. Later in the evening I asked Kiana to put her gifts in her room, and help me unload the dishwasher and she said "Why do *I* always have to do ALL the work around here? No-one else does ANYTHING!"

And for the FS...we had a rainstorm today. He texted to say that his window was LEAKING! and the floor was getting WET! and he didn't know what to DO!!!!! I texted back "guess you better grab a towel."

[momraine]

Well I am being mean again. Making M eat. He has been sitting in the chair staring at the food for 4 hours now. We are all just ignoring him, dh and I went out to dinner and a movie and the boys just left him sitting. He said that I could not have fun I have to watch him, and I told him I didn't have to. It's going to be a long night.

[lambeausam]

I won the award last night when one of the boys spouted off, "Fine I'm going to bed" at 6pm and I actually made him follow his own threat!

Sam

[aMarylandfamily]

The "crown" went to me last night - I had the nerve to tell ds (16) to look at what he puts into his relationships when girlfriend advised "time for breather" ... and need to get life in order and on the road to future ... and even yelled back (which I seldom do) when he decided (very loud and with very mean words!) the reason he is the way he is is because that is how I raised him ... hmmmmm - whoever said parenting is fun! (Wouldn't trade it but some days that island they keep talking about for teenage boys sounds like a bargain to buy! )

[greenrobin]

I got the meanie ribbon 2 days in a row.

First, Bubba went swimming and had to put his original clothes back on. He found his shorts, but kept changing into other clothes. Then he couldn't find his shirt. Then his shorts disappeared. I told him he couldn't come down until he was wearing his original clothes. He chose to rampage upstairs for 3 hours and eat his dinner in his room. Poor boy.

Then yesterday he went swimming again. The swim suit was hanging on his doorknob. I sent him to get it. He ran out into the backyard without it--or anything else--on. I sent him back and he said he couldn't find it, so he got another one. No problem. He swam and put on the original clothes (score 1 for me). At bedtime, I went to put Sissy to bed and, lo and hehold, the swimsuit had migrated to behind her rocking chair! I took the suit and asked if he knew where I found it. He did--right down to the spot on the floor. Well, because he can't tell the difference between a story and the truth, and a story had already been told, he didn't get one last night.

I'm wondering what I'll win it for today.

[skirbo]

I either win the mean mom award or the 'I'm an easy to manipulate idiot' award. Since it resulted in me having a very quiet weekend by myself, I don't really care which.

B wanted to drive an hour away just to pay to watch fireworks on the water. I told her no, that we had a good display here in our town on the lake. Then she proceeded to complain about how much she missed previous FP N and how N spoiled her with constantly paying to do stuff. Mind, she was removed from N because N couldn't control her at 12.

I said, fine, call her and see if she wants you for the weekend. N came and got her Friday morning and still has her, because the weather was awful last night and neither of us wanted to be on the road.

The alone time I got was enough to make me not care about making what I feel is actually a mistake. She's been so disrespectful lately while I have been so stressed about money and other things that I was just totally drained.

N is probably going to give my umbrella cockatoo a home where she will get much more attention and be much happier than she has been since I got her back from the people that adopted her from me when I had to re-home so many a few years ago when I moved to where I am now. N just lost her baby a few weeks ago so I'm taking Shasta down there tonight for a trial when I go pick up B. I'll miss her a lot, but think she'll be better off in the long run if it works out.

So that was my holiday mean mom story.

Sarah