[Bippette]

point why I even care. Sigh. I send him a text about once a day, but no response.

[lovemy6]

I'm sorry. I know how you feel. I told dh that I shouldn't even care since T cared so little about me. Someone here, I think, said that my son couldn't call bc of the guilt since he knew he was wrong for treating me the way he had. They were right. I bet your son is feeling so guilty over hurting you that he can't swallow his pride and just return your call.

I'm so sorry!

[stevenstwin]

I'm not sure if you should keep texting him. Did you catch my story? I was doing the same thing, just trying to keep the door open - and Austin went to the school principal (and remember I work there!) and reported me for "harassing him". He then sent me a text saying that he'd call the police if I texted him again. Very, very weird - considering that he never, ever told me not to text him, and up until that point had always responded to my texts. *sigh*. I'm working really, really hard on waiting it out, and I keep repeating "If you love something let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, then track it down and...NO, NO - that's not the way it goes! I'm sure you know the proper ending, but as I say, I'm still working on it ;-)

[kay]

I agree with Stevenstwin - I'd stop the daily texting. Whatever emotional "stuff" is driving him right now is again thrown at him, daily, and he's getting no time to process. Maybe stop the texting altogether, and just send him a note once a week (or whenever you can't stand not to anymore!!) - just a quick "hey, thinking of you! with love". No pressure at all for him to respond, not even "how are you?" or "I hope to hear from you soon". I understand how very painful this is for you, and I hope he comes around quickly.

[Bippette]

I know you both are right. Patience isn't my virtue.

And like I said before, after all that's gone on, I'm not sure why I even care so much any more. I hate the way it ended, and after spending so much effort and energy on this kid, I'm having a hard time letting go.

[Bippette]

Originally Posted by stevenstwin

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, then track it down and...NO, NO - that's not the way it goes! I'm sure you know the proper ending, but as I say, I'm still working on it ;-)

Bwahahaha. That gave me a good chuckle. I'm right there with ya sister.

[kay]

Boy, do I understand the lack of patience!!! (My usual prayer is "God, please give me patience - NOW!!!!!") The only way I was able to get my mind around your son's point of view was to relate it to my circumstance with C's girlfriend. I have banned her from my house and hopefully from my life (yeah, I know, but I can hope, can't I???) for reasons that make perfect sense to me, and probably don't to her. If she were texting me every day, I'd be approaching homicidal by now. I know, completely different circumstance - but that's what I was thinking of when I replied. It's so hard when you don't have a clue what you've even done to "drive" him to this - but it does sound like he needs some space and time.

(And stevenstwin made me laugh out loud, too!!!)

[stevenstwin]

Do these kids all run on the same batteries, or something? Kay- when A. had his sudden freak out where he decided I couldn't talk to him unless he initiated it, he had his GIRLFRIEND text me to tell me ...she said things like "You know, I'm getting really sick of your attitude...." and stuff along those lines. I mean, seriously - she's FOURTEEN. I almost laughed it was so ludicrous! She also "advised" me that he isn't really rejectiing me, and he'll contact me when he FEELS like it. Geez, these kids. And Bippette - I raised this child since he was barely 14 - I would have thought that would make a difference, but sometimes I think that loyalty gets ya nothing. I have one advantage - I still teach in his school, and so I see him and hear mention of him frequently. Mind you, that's just gotten me the inside knowledge that he has an average of 21% at school right now, and skips about 3 days a week.