[kay]

When I came home from work tonight, the kids were in the alley across the street, and E was screaming so loud I knew we were in for problems. They came in eventually, and apparently someone called the cops on them, they were so loud. They were "working things out" in his bedroom, with loud crying on her part and lots of cussing from both of them. I came by and told them both to sit up, and they both got an attitude, and it went from there. She screamed that her parents have no problem at all with them laying on the bed, and I responded that was fine, they needed to go to her house then - it's not allowed here. Then she went off on me, calling me every name in the book and telling me she'd never respect me again (as if she ever did, the lying conniving little ...) and I needed to be nicer to C, and by the way, if I'd lose some weight I'd be a much happier and nicer person.

Yes, I'm upset. She quickly brought me down to her level, and I was ready for a knockdown dragout fight. Not one of my better days. I honestly think the kid is psycho - but that doesn't excuse my going psycho back at her.

I guess I'll go cry for awhile now . . .

[AmyAnne]

Oh man. YOu did better than me. I'd have pitched little miss onto the sidewalk.

[lucyjoy]

Throw her out of your house, call her parents, and when she shows up next time, slam the door in her face! If your son is intent on seeing her, let him do it elsewhere. No one should ever speak to you like that in your house! How dare that little......! Wow!

She's lucky you were there and not me cause I'd have had the cops remove her!

[waited2long]

As seems to be happening rather frequently, I agree with LucyJoy.

That person should be 86'd from your property. It is YOUR home, if she wanted to be welcomed she should have treated you with the respect you deserve.

No more!!! Out darn spot!!!! (I'm using my nice language)

[Original Mike]

If ANYONE ever talked to me like that in my home, they'd be lucky to walk out with all of their teeth intact!!!!

Since you can't punch out Lil Miss Easy, I would tell C "She is never welcome in this house and, if I find her here, i will call the police and have them take her home." (not sure if you could press tresspass charges or not in CA; we could here)

I would also play the male ego card with C. Ask him what kind of man lets his girlfriend disrespect him and his mother. If he wants to be treated like a man, he'd better start acting like one.

As a friend of mine likes to say, Kay, "Time to channel your inner dragon" and breath some fire at this little skeezer."

[crick]

I agree with the others...this is your home & sanctuary and she is there as a guest, not a right. I'd not let her back in and I'd also call her parents to explain what happened and why she is not allowed back. I'd inform them too that if she is caught in the home, the police will be called.

Personally, I'd leave C out of it because I think if you put him in the middle of it, it won't go your way. Whatever hold she has on him is strong and if C feels he has to choose, given his rebellious actions of late, I think he'd choose her. I'd tell him you refuse to be disrespected like that in your own home and she is not welcome there, but beyond that, I wouldn't put it on him. She's responsible for her own voice and I doubt even a mack truck running over her would have stopped her from being so vile to you.

What a horrible person!! ((HUGS))

[lambeausam]

Next time she shows up file trespassing charges. Good grief, what does C see in this girl?

[skirbo]

DITTO! Ditto, ditto, ditto. I can't agree enough. No way, no how, not happening, would someone talk to me that way in my own house and be welcome back. Ever. Without a great deal of very sincere apologizing and possibly groveling and gift giving.

Sarah

[Original Mike]

Why do I think that any man who talked to you that way would end up missing parts of his anatomy??


Mike

[Lorraine123]

Kay,

This is YOUR home. You should not be disrespected in this way in your house. You should not allow it. By C seeing you allow someone to disrespect you, he loses respect for you. You must have her removed from your property. Call the police if necessary. I know its hard to believe, but C will respect you more for it. I know its tough, but no adult should be talked to in that way by a child. Hugs to you Kay.

Lorraine

[MamaS]

Ditto to what Lorraine said. It is a matter of respect and self respect. Tell C she is no longer allowed on the property and tell the little witch's parents you will have her arrested for trespass if you find her there. (That way they can be prepared to bail her out -- or not!)

[kay]

She called me last night, and apologized. It seemed heartfelt and genuine - my Eddie Haskell radar wasn't activated. I accepted her apology, but did tell her firmly that I think it's best that she and C "hang" someplace other than our house. And yes, I had my hand on the phone to call the police when she finally did leave. C didn't come home until very late last night (meaning I have no idea when), and that was worrying. I was very relieved when I got up this morning and saw him in bed.

I have no idea what C is getting from this relationship (other than the obvious, easy sex) but I try to make my comments completely about him and his happiness, not telling him my opinion of her! (Frankly I think there's some mental illness going on there!!!) I tell him I'd like him to be happy, and he deserves better than this constant turmoil. Yeah, I know, given his background he's probably seeking out the turmoil, because that's what he's most comfortable with.

[lovemy6]

Originally Posted by lucyjoy

Throw her out of your house, call her parents, and when she shows up next time, slam the door in her face! If your son is intent on seeing her, let him do it elsewhere. No one should ever speak to you like that in your house! How dare that little......! Wow!

She's lucky you were there and not me cause I'd have had the cops remove her!

In agreement 100%! How dare she!

Kids have no respect for authority. I'd be toothless if I ever said anything slightly like that to an adult when I was a kid. ARG!

[eyejustam]

Kay, you do not have to tolerate that kind of disrespect. I kicked my DD girlfriend to the curb when she started screaming and cussing me. They were living in my house, paying nothing. And because my DD didn't try to stop her or stand up for me, I kicked her to the curb too. I also called the police. That was more for their protection than mine. My DD knew not to speak to me that way. My German Shepherd was trying his best to get a hold of the girlfriend. But she was not in my personal space. Her mouth was running from the bottom of the stairs and I was at the top. She finally shut her mouth when I let Kodi go down 2 steps towards her. That was back in February. I have not heard one word from my DD since that day and as of right now I am ok with that. I deserve respect. I will accept nothing less. And they are no longer together.

[Lorraine123]

I have been thinking about this thread a lot today. I have thought about what I would do if any of my son's girlfriends talked to me that way. First, I would be very upset at my sons for not stopping it. Then, I would ask the gf to leave and I would call her parents and let them know what happened and let them know that she is not welcome in my home. And I would not let her back. In Kay's case, this gf has been disrespectful multiple times. I would not accept her apology. If my son wanted to see the girl, fine, but not in my home. If it drives a wedge between my child and myself, fine. At least my child would know that I have respect for myself.

My son's gf and I have disagreed but we do it respectfully. I can't imagine her being that disrespectful. I'm not saying it couldn't happen, but there would be consequences.

Kay - You deserve to be treated with the utmost respect. You should demand it. I am SO sorry that this child believes that it is ok to act this way. What a sad life she will have when she doesn't know how to treat people in authority.