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Old 05-20-2008, 09:17 AM
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Sad news..

Well, I recieved some sad news today. When the girls were taken into care, there were two other children in the house. The two children were the children of biofather's current uhh...live-in.

Those children were not taken into care at the time, as the GF moved and was put on a care program...I just found out that about 3 weeks ago the children were taken into care...

I called Children's services to inquire about the kids, as the girls have asked me frequently about them and would like to visit (well visit one of them).

The news is not good...C, the older boy (I think he is 11) has been bounced through about 6 foster homes...in three weeks..and is now in a group home. He is a handful...I knew him before...he likes to challenge authority and can be very very violent...

His sister H who is 8...has also been dragged with C from foster home to foster home..and is now living in the group home too...arghh

My heart breaks for them...I would take H in a heartbeat....but I cannot take C...I cannot handle his issues..

Unfortunately Children's services is not willing to split them...and we are also not able to visit them because the girls are not their biological siblings.....

Prayers for both of them would be appreciated...they are children of my heart...and I still love and care for both them..even though I can't give them a home..
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Old 05-20-2008, 10:05 AM
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(((hugs))) and will be praying for them too. There are so many situations just like this....
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Old 05-20-2008, 10:16 AM
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I will be praying for them. Sadly thier experience is more common. Your girls were very blessed to have been spared that. You are doing something for four special little girls. Also prayer is something too, I really beleive that.
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Old 05-20-2008, 11:51 AM
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So much about that makes me mad. Why a healthy child that could find permanency is bounced through the system because of the "need" to keep siblings together...for whose benefit? And the fact that while on the one hand they won't separate her from the brother that is ruining her chances of finding stability, they see no reason to nurture a loving bond that doesn't include biology. Apparently, blood is everything and love and common sense are nothing. I'm so sorry for them - and for the pain you and your children are experiencing.
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Old 05-20-2008, 03:49 PM
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oh hydroxy, what a sad situation. Of course I will pray for these little ones. Seems they have so many strikes against them already, but if enough of us unite in prayer, there is hope.
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Prayers sent for all concerned.
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Oh, my! Prayers said!
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My daughter didn't get adopted with her 3 other sibs. They all went to different homes and with this case it was for the best. She still visits her little sister, but her brother has been in and out of group homes and has so many problems of his own. She hasen't seen her older sister for several years now. She still feels a connection to them and loves them. I will pray for all of the children you mentioned and you. I feel your frustration with the system. It's never easy!
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