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Home Depot just delivered 3 of the 4 doors I ordered to replace those C has destroyed in anger. Now I wait another 2 weeks for the contractor to install them. This simple easy "just pay and have it done" project is taking forever!

And C's girlfriend woke him up this morning to start yet another fight. I have absolutely had it with her. She crossed the line forever for me when C called her after being released from juvie, and she spent 20 minutes going off on him - without even asking how he was or what had happened! And he just keeps taking it. I told him this morning he has been trying to "prove himself" to her since December, and it's NEVER gonna happen. He lets it go and is just fine until the next time - I'm finding it increasingly difficult even to be civil to the little (w)itch.

[aMarylandfamily]

I haven't met my son's yet (other than being on this side of the open phone line/communication that goes on every day) but so dislike the control she has over him... definitely understanding! And I really love him antagonizing me to have me speak and then him yell at me and then she "poor baby's" him for hours ... and you better believe he plays that one as far as he can over and over and over" ... grrr!

Hang in there ... and you are brave - we are not replacing the one door that our ds decided to whack with his fist over a year ago until he is 18 and out of the house!

[Kansas Girl]

Last year R got "involved" with this girl who sounds just like what you are describing. Total drama. First she blew R off (her parents didn't like R, evidently from what this girl had told them) so he remained friends with her friends, and she got totally jealous about that. He would just write her nice "friend" notes and some mushy love notes, most of which he never even gave to her. But what she wrote him.....wow. Total you-know-what. You would've thought they'd been married for years with kids and were getting divorced and it was R's fault! R didn't even have her in any classes this year but she still continued the crusade. She even started a rumor that R had a "hit list" of kids he was going to kill at school! R's no angel but I still don't think he would come up with anything like that.When I talked to the principal I gave him some of the notes and also reminded him that R was not organized enough to have a list of any kind....besides, his impulse control wasn't that good to be that calculating! The whole thing went away then. I don't know if the principal ever talked to the girl or not. We've told R just to stay away from her and her friends.

We've had lots of conversations with R about his guy friends....getting away from the ones who are no good for him. Seems to be helping - he's staying away from the bad element more, now he's just got to figure out that those "boring geeks and nerds" are mostly likely the ones who will make good friends and not get him in any trouble.

so much fun, eh?!

Fran