[zebramom]

No big surprise here but Mother's Day has pretty much sucked. I had no expectations that it would be good, but I did have some hope with Shorty and that's pretty much gone.

Yesterday we went to see T at his facility and we had a day pass. We took the kids to a Children's Museum and they had a blast. They were pretty appropriate and Shorty made me a Mother's Day card. T never said a word about Mother's Day and hasn't called tonight. Totally what I expected from him. We purposely didn't go today so that he couldn't ruin it for me.

DH "made" me breakfast in bed by bringing me a doughnut, which he got on the way back from picking up my gift and flowers at Wal-Mart at 6:00 this morning. His card was at least nice.

When we went to church Shorty was decent, but once in church her bad behavior kicked up. Nothing major, just that little stuff that picks at you.

Hubby took me to Chili's for lunch and it turned it out it was happy hour, so my one margarita became two. We came to change clothes and I was debating on going mall working to work off lunch, or just chilling on the couch. The decision was made when I walked into my room and found Shorty laying on my bed. She has been stealing from us and going through our room so her rule is that she is not allowed in our room. Yet, there she was.

I sent her to bed and she took a two hour nap. Meanwhile hubby decided to watch guy movies on TV and I did the laundry.

I should know better, but I dared to get my hopes up. Stupid me.

How was your Mother's Day?

[lucyjoy]

Z, that really doesn't sound so bad.

I got a phone call from both R's and M went with us to my sisters. The only mother's day acknowledgement was the pink carnation I got from my father.

The puppies ate the couch as hubby decided to leave them inside instead of out.

But I had a good time visiting with my siblings and extended family and the sun is shining so all and all, a pretty good mother's day for me.

[zebramom]

Yeah, I keep forgetting how perfect my life is. Never mind.

[lucyjoy]

You had a decent visit, your daughter made you a card, your dh bought you a gift and card, you went out to lunch and had drinks. I just didn't think it sounded so terrible. Sorry I offended you by saying so.

[Joy2566]

I spent Saturday (working at Wal-Mart) checking out people buying flowers, cards etc for their Moms knowing I'd be lucky to get acknowledgement from my family. Came home pretty depressed. I spent the day driving 3hrs to visit kiddo in psych hospital, it was the only day I could visit. We actually did have a pretty good visit, but then had to drive the 3 hours home. I really don't have the energy to deal with mother's day, and feeling very weepy, so didn't want to call my mom. I called anyway and of course started crying, she helpfully reminded me of a time years ago when I didn't acknowledge her on mother's day. That went well. While I was still on the phone with my mom, my cell phone rang. It was the guardian of my dd's boyfriend. She had just texted him a naked picture of herself. She of course doesn't know why she did it. I hate cell phones, son's major blow up this week started with texting. Now I have two extra phones and am seriously considering smashing them.

On a positive note, my rad daughter who has been tantruming for the past few weeks made me a heart out of clay and painted Happy Mother's Day, Love, S. on it. During Sunday School today they made a note for moms. Hers said, "My mother is special because she nice, helps with homework, helps you when you get hurt, cooks for us, gives hug and kisses, gets me things when I need things."

DH did get me an ice cream cake (my favorite), first time in 17 years that he has gotten me anything for Mother's Day. Two adult children called me. So it really isn't all bad. It's funny how the bad seems to overshadow the good.

[Lylac]

We spent the biggest part of the day at my MIL's house cooking steaks on the grill. Then we stopped by my parents house for a few mins, then home. I got some flowers that L planted at school, a card from my sister, lots of hugs and kisses from all 3 babies...nothing but a kiss and a Happy Mothers Day from hubby. I didn't want any gifts. I mean I am getting the ultimate gift soon...a new son.

Sorry the day wasn't happy for ya'll

[SAHmom]

z, sorry! I hope you have a GREAT week!!!

My day went well. Started on Friday with all of the kids' gifts they had made at school. Then Friday night, hubby and one of my daughter came home with a HUGE Mother's Day DQ cake {never mind trying to lose weight!**. I had already went shopping at Wal-Mart and picked myself up four shirts {loved the design and couldn't chose between the colors, so bought them all! **. Bought myself a minature rose plant at Dillons {I am so *good* to myself! **. Today I get a big singing card from the kids. The BEST present, though, was sleeping until NINE! WOW! Loved it! My kids were all well-behaved and we even went out to eat. Even my 9 year old said that he wouldn't urinate inappropriately...and he didn't. In fact, he is on week three of not peeing on things. And I even got more hugs from my kids than I usually do. Can't beat that! Now I have probably jinxed my week....

[waited2long]

Zebramom...

Maybe your looking at this Mothers Day thing all wrong?

I think from now on it should be a day for you to celebrate all of your achievements as a mother. Leave the kids and hubby for the entire day, maybe the entire weekend and go on a little holiday. Or buy yourself something special... Here's an idea... Whenever Shorty does something she knows is wrong, don't just give her the usual repercussions, fine her as well. By next Mothers Day you should have earned a wonderful trip or gift for yourself!!!

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if others can't seem to make the day special for you, then you should find a way to make it special yourself.

I'm very sorry you felt let down. I'm having a very bad day myself. I have nothing to celebrate on Mothers Day, no children and no mother...

Hugs.

[mrsred]

My day started at 6:00 AM when I heard T slamming things around downstairs in the kitchen. Was she getting me breakfast in bed? heck no, just pigging out herself before turning on cartoons (abslutely against the rules on a Sunday morning). I drug myself out of bed at 7am acn came down to make coffee. T started jabbering with the dog and doing other things to annoy me. I went upstairs to wake the boys who had to be at church by the 8:30 service since they were in a puppet play for mother's day. Woke J first... he almost moved. Finally got his adhd pill in him and told him to get up and get moving. Then went in and woke up E. while I wasa trying to rouse him I noticed that all the clean clothes I had asked him to put away yesterday were just shoved in the bottom of his closet. Of course when I said something about it he yelled at me - because somehow it was my fault I guess. Then I went in to get dressed. By the time I was dressed C was out of bed and throwing a tantum over something. But why would Mother's Day start any different from any other day of the year?
Went to church with the boys, which went well. Dh dropped the girls off at 10am for Sunday school, then he he came back at 11:00 for second service with us. The two older kids made Mother's Day gifts in their confirmation class. Really pretty beaded things to hang on key chain. But T decided she is going to save hers to give to her birth mom when she gets out of prison. But, of course. I am only her adoptive mom.
We came home and I cleaned the kitchen before in laws came for dinner. Dh made an absolutely wonderful cranbery glazed pork roast on the rotiserie.
I did get some cards and gifts. The kids each made their own cards. Actually I need to ammend that. J made a card at school that was really nice (T made one at school to, but that also goes to b mom). J also made a card for E to give to me. E didn't even sign his own name. that would have been far too much trouble. T made a card at home that said "Sorry I have been such a brat lately, but I love you" and T helped C make a card. Dh gave me a card and a Beth Moore devotional.
Now I need to go finish cleaning the kitchen. Happy Mother's Day.

[skirbo]

My first mother's day was not bad, so I guess I'm happy. All the relatives called me to wish me a happy first, and my daughter gave me a card. She also spent the entire weekend in her bedroom refusing to do the things we needed to do in order to go to a movie and stuff yesterday, so we didn't go.

We did go to my brother's last night-his girlfriend of 12 years just left him and he's depressed. B 'parent shopped' him is about the only way to put it.

But at least there was no drama and no arguments.

I'm sorry that so many had to have a crap mother's day.

Sarah

[arkansas parent]

Dh decided to have the kids give me my gifts on Friday. He said it was because we would be gone most of the day Sat. and he has to work on Sundays. I know it was really because we had an argument about our daugher going to band camp for a week. (I won she is not going. He was just sucking up because he knew I was right.)
A got me a squirel yard ornament and T got me some wind chimes. DH took a picture of me with the kids and T had his hand on my big belly (forgot to suck it in ) so it looks like I'm pregant. I'm not!! Unless I can do some major cropping I will be deleting that picture.
Yesterday I spent the day cleaning house.I did tell myself happy Mothers day last night just to remind everyone it was Mother's day

[crick]

Sorry to hear Mother's Day wasn't great for some of you. I think Waited has it right on a lot of levels where if you can't get what you hope for from your family, make it what you want in the future.

Not the same thing, but I do this to some extent. Mother's Day is a bittersweet day for me b/c I miss my mom so much more on this day. I'm happy to have the kids to celebrate and spend the day with them, but I still have a hard time.

I realized after the first year that I really can't handle the big "to do" on this day. Dh is under strict instructions to keep it very low key and for us it's just about a normal Sunday afternoon as a family. Kids do breakfast for me, present their homemade/school made gifts and then it's pretty much a regular ole' day hanging out.

I think as Waited said, you can make it special for you. After all it is about YOU on this one day of the year, so do make a spa appt. or go to the city for the day and see the sights etc.

Of course it hurts that you aren't getting from others what you want and that is understandable. For next year and the future though, make it a good day and not one to dread every year. Who knows? Family just might learn something when you tell them "Oh, I'm going away for the weekend to celebrate ME".