[AmyAnne]

I don't feel like celebrating.

The plan was to go to an amusement park on saturday. Go to church sunday, then watch a family movie and have the guys either order pizza or cook for me and then I would watch the season finale of "Survivor" undisturbed. The only part of that I'm interested in now is the finale of Survivor.

After the display of ugliness my son put on, why am I expecting him to celebrate Mother's Day? he hates me anyhow and I don't have the energy to care.

I don't want elaborate plans. I don't want presents. I want to be LEFT ALONE.

I officially HATE Mother's Day.

[mrsred]

Amy, I am so sorry. Sadly, I pretty much get it. but this year, other than the foster daughter that I am hoping they will move soon, we are doing better than a year ago. Never the less, when my kids started talking about what they would do for me on Mother's day, and my 8 yr old said "Why do all the boys have to become slaves for the day, just because its Mother's Day?" I said I really didn't want any meaningless gifts or platitudes. If they can't treat me with respect the other 364 days in the year, why fake it for that one day?

[lucyjoy]

I highly recommend running away for mother's day.

I don't mention it and hope it goes unnoticed. We do celebrate with my extended family, which will be tough this year with my mom so sick.

I've gotten very good at ignoring my birthday and Mother's Day. It's just easier.

It's tough to be reminded that I'm not the mother that my children wanted.

So sorry things are so tough right now. Go do something you enjoy and leave kiddo with dad.

[zebramom]

I agree. A few years ago I went to dinner with my best friend and DH took kiddo to a baseball game with my extended family. I certainly got the better end of that deal.

Nothing says you have to spend the day with ungrateful kids.

[kay]

Running away and canceling both sound good to me! If it weren't for wanting to be with my own mom I'd love to ignore the whole thing. I can hear it now - C cussing me out because I never give him any money so of course it's my fault he didn't get me anything. Maybe someday the kid will get back to liking me, but for this year, anyway, I'll be glad when the whole thing is over.

[Kansas Girl]

Maybe one of these years we should plan a SNPTF get together on Mother's Day......wine, chocolate, maybe the spa......

We keep it really low key here - don't hardly even say anything - maybe just go out for breakfast. On the first or second Mother's Day after R came to live with us he was cranky - he finally told me, "my own mother wouldn't/couldn't even keep me for three years so how do I know that you will?" What could I say?

R has a long way to go towards really respecting Mom and the other significant women who may come into his life. For the most part, it keeps getting better.....

Fran

[chelspark1]

Last year was my first year being a mom on Mother's Day. It was absolutely awful.
I really don't think things are going to be any better this year. My son bought me a box of candy for my birthday and a lovely card (with my husband's help) but my daughter did absolutely nothing and then tried to make up some lame excuses.
My husband is away this week golfing with friends so I told him I'm taking my mom down the shore on Sunday to spend time with her and he is to deal with the kids. I don't want to be taken out to eat - I just want to spend the time with my mom. I'm going through a really hard time with my job right now and I don't think I could handle another bad mother's day.
I know this day is especially hard on my kids but since I'm the one who puts up with all their crap throughout the year and does everything for them - I owe it to myself to be selfish for one day out of the year.

[Indy]

So far....knock on wood....I don't have "major" issues. I see some of the same things around Father's Day though.

Speaking of Mother's Day. I went to "Morning Tea for Mothers" on Tuesday at 11AM for J4. He was tickled to see his dad come in. They had made things for their mothers and everything was oriented towards mothers, except mine! They had helped J4 make Father's Day things. They made him feel like it was perfectly natural to just have a dad. The other moms made me feel comfortable. There was one other dad show up, but he was late. It would seem that many of the other mothers know I am the guy with 10 sons.

It made me very happy to have a teacher as supportive as J4 has.

[Tudu]

My birthday is the day before Mother's Day this year, both will probably suck. We are meeting with my MIL for lunch on Saturday and I hope if we just celebrate it for her it will go better than last year when I made the mistake of puttinghtem in cute little dresses. One of the twins is quite passive aggressive and stuck her finger in her vagina repeatedly and wiped it all over our attached child for no apparent reason. It still haunts me today, it makes me cringe. They are quite angry with their parents this year so I am not sure which way it will go.

I hope you all manage to enjoy yourselves.

[lucyjoy]

Forget the baby pictures, I want pictures of Indy at the Mother's tea.

S had a major meltdown yesterday and dh looks at me and said he should have sent me to Haiti or the Bahamas for Mother's Day(not sure how Haiti got in there but at this point, send me anywhere but here)

[Missile801]

I've always hated Mother's Day. First of all, because I was never a biological mom and second, because my own mother wasn't all that nice to me.

This year it's going to be especially difficult because I've been a foster mom to my step-daughter's son for the past year. Our next court date is next month and I totally expect that she will regain custody, in spite of the fact that she doesn't keep a job.

I wake up in the middle of the night and wonder what will happen to this wonderful 2 year old.

So yeah, cancel Sunday, please....

[SAHmom]

This Mother's Day is special for me. It's was Mother's Day weekend last year when we found out we were selected for our three children. What a great Mother's Day gift that was! It will also be a sad weekend as it will be the last time I will have Lil Miss. She is expected to return home after being here since December.