[stevenstwin]

tell me what you think of this. He said some lovely things about how much I've done for A. and how he's always supported me, blah, blah, blah - but this it he line that made my eyebrows go up:

"Hate to say it, but it is obvious that the best thing you can do for A., yourself, and the school is to steer clear of him completely."

Huh. So, I actually already have that covered - A. was informed on Friday that I will only agree to contact in the presence of a social worker or therapist. But it does frankly irritate me that this school administrator feels it is appropriate for HIM to advise me on "What is best for A." or to tell me what I can or can't do outside the school and off school property. I might add that all my past contact with A. has been encouraged by both the Social worker and the therapist, and he's never before indicated that it was unwelcome.

[lucyjoy]

It's the same advice most people here gave you. I would take it to indicate that he understands the child has mental problems and right now, steering clear is the safest.

Remember too, that this kid coming to him put him in an awkward position. That whole mandated reporter thing.

Seems to me he was trying to be supportive and just trying to defuse the situation.

[aspenhall]

I think it sounds like he's just trying to give advice as a friend from what he sees of it all from where he stands in the matter.

Perhaps he sees how it might have gone if it had been another person who was your boss, and not him...and jhe worries for you?

[stevenstwin]

Originally Posted by aspenhall

I think it sounds like he's just trying to give advice as a friend from what he sees of it all from where he stands in the matter.

Perhaps he sees how it might have gone if it had been another person who was your boss, and not him...and jhe worries for you?

Well, I'll assume good inentions and poor delivery. As for anyone worrying (someone here said I should be grateful the police weren't involved) I really don't think I have anything at all to fear. His "proof" was a text message...clearly there is no way to fake that if anyone wants to look at the phone number on it and check my own phone records (or even the rest of the cell phones in my family). Pretty quick to see that the texts came from somewhere else, and I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard for the police to find out who...and then he really looks like a fool, doesn't he? Sounds like dear ol' dad is teaching him his own tricks, and no better at them. So - I feel sorry for him. I'm really mad at him. I plan to do exactly as I said and welcome contact if he wishes to re-establish it - WITH the therapist or SW present. But I'm not too worried that he can do me any harm as long as I'm allowed to request EVIDENCE.