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I agree with everything posted here - I'm glad I came here and learned what I did when I did - I did not begin parenting blindly, thanks to everyone who helped me along the way. Advice on this board gave me the questions to ask, the signs / red flags to look for, and a place to ask opinions -

I'd say you're very smart for doing your research first before potetentially becoming another disrupted placement for a child who has already been through it...

I did adopt a 12 year old boy with RAD who had TWO disrupted adoptions... but there were many things that were different about a placement with me and I was fairly confident that it would work... so far everything has gone very smooth - I've been enjoying the ride - I LOVE parenting him very much - he's 14 now... and we're still doing great... but it HASN'T always been easy - but I will say it has been easier that I thought it would - I would also say he isn't cured or anything - I'm not sure what a healthy attachment is anymore... but we're making it work.

(Now that I've said this, our lives will turn upside down or something... sheesh!)