[michsm]

we were doing good that only lasted for one evening. So I'm back with a couple more questions and a little venting, hope no one minds.

We went from bad to worse. In a matter of three days she has been written up at school for insubordination, being rude, annoying classmates, disrupting her class and having habitual discipline problems. On Wednesday she threatened one of the lunch ladies and today she was removed from the classroom and had to sit in the office for the remainder of the day. I tried to tell the teacher in the beggining these things were coming and she looked at me like I was crazy. She has emailed me every day with problems (like ther is something I can do about her behavior at school while I am at work). She has also never heard of RAD before. I am trying to explain her behaviors the best I can as they come up. She has also been written up at her after school daycare program this week for being disrespectful, having discipline problems etc..

We are doing alright at home right now. Her privliges are still removed until behavior improves and I am trying my best not to react to her. So school is my main problem right now.

How do I even begin to help them understand these issues? Has anything worked for any of you to help people who just can't comprehend this side of things to understand?

They told me if she got written up again she would have in school suspension. That is not going to benefit her in any way. She will just start acting up even more to get out of her school work. I have been trying to think of a better solution I may be able to approach them with. Like if she threatens lunch lady than I have to bring her in evening or on saturday to clean lunch room. Does anyone have any ideas?

Also, I have one more question. I wil be taking her on vacation with me in a few weeks is there any documentation you would recommend my having with me incase she starts behaving in extreme ways. I was thinking of getting letter from her therepist I just didn't know if anyone would have any ideas on anything else I should have or specifics on what the letter should contain.

[AmyAnne]

PErhaps this article may help?

About.com: http://www.attachmentdisorder.net/Letter_to_Teacher.htm

[MomwithFive]

Originally Posted by AmyAnne

PErhaps this article may help?

About.com: Attachment Disorder Site - providing hope and support.

This is something good to have. Thanks

[marythemom]

Thanks AmyAnne! The only thing it doesn't address is multiple diagnoses like my son has, but it's still a great resource! Thanks again.

Mary
mom to T(9), K(11), H(13) and D(14) - has RAD

[michsm]

Thank you so much that seems very helpful.

[kay]

I would suggest the letter from your therapist, and also one from your social worker. I know when C was still foster, our agency recommended we carry with us at all times the workers' emergency numbers (and the head of the agency even gave us her home number!) just in case we had to prove to authorities that everything was ok. I remember that one couple had troubles with the police when their son acted up in a park, and they didn't have those numbers with them.

[michsm]

Originally Posted by kay

I would suggest the letter from your therapist, and also one from your social worker. I know when C was still foster, our agency recommended we carry with us at all times the workers' emergency numbers (and the head of the agency even gave us her home number!) just in case we had to prove to authorities that everything was ok. I remember that one couple had troubles with the police when their son acted up in a park, and they didn't have those numbers with them.

I asked for a letter from the therepist today while we were there. He gave me his cell phone number in case of emergency, told me to think about what I would like in the letter and to let him know if I still wanted one before we left. I will definitely want one from him I was just hoping he would know what to put in it. He thought I may be comfortable with just his cell. Do you have any advice as to exactly what the letter should contain? I thought he would take care of that part for me.

I have all of the phone numbers for the agency, but I am still going to requst some more documentation from them. I am not comfortable going without some extra documentation. That is my biggest fear is that I will have trouble with the police if she starts acting out in public.

[michsm]

Originally Posted by AmyAnne

PErhaps this article may help?

About.com: http://www.attachmentdisorder.net/Letter_to_Teacher.htm

Thank you very much. I gave this to her teacher today while I was at school.

[AmyAnne]

Originally Posted by michsm

Thank you very much. I gave this to her teacher today while I was at school.

You're welcome. I really hope it helps your situation!