[stevenstwin]

and feel like I've been run over by a truck. Again. Last therapy appointment was on my birthday - stupid time to book an appt., eh? Anyway, I'm sure I'm not the only one who finds these sessions really draining and exhausting - but I guess that means that some hard work is getting done. We went from him saying he just wasn't going to talk or participate at all to him dumping blame, blame, blame, guilt, guilt, guilt on me for everything in his life. Funny thing is, he's happy and refreshed and relaxed after an hour of this - so I think that it really IS helping him sort things out and reorganize his thinking, but it just leaves me totally...empty, I guess.

p.s. edited to add that the therapist works really hard at helping him re-write the script and see a more realistic view, and helping him understand where the blame and guilt is coming from. When I posted this and read it, I thought it sounded a bit like he just gets to unload and vent until he feels all better -but that isn't the way it is.

[ajjhmf]

It's so hard when they vent and unload on us. And my son feels better when he does it too. In his case, I think he lets loose his fears and then he is redirected and sees the holes in his theories, he feels relief that it's not true and we haven't disserted him or love him less. If that makes any sense.

Take some time for yourself and recharge. It is just sooooooo draining.

[stevenstwin]

Originally Posted by ajjhmf

It's so hard when they vent and unload on us. And my son feels better when he does it too. In his case, I think he lets loose his fears and then he is redirected and sees the holes in his theories, he feels relief that it's not true and we haven't disserted him or love him less. If that makes any sense.

Take some time for yourself and recharge. It is just sooooooo draining.

Yes, that does make sense - it was really well-put. Thank you.

[Bippette]

Hang in there. It's really a good thing that he DOES talk and express himself in therapy. We can't get J there yet. He still holds it all inside.

But its hard when we are in the trenches with them day after day, and yet we are the ones they constantly shoot down.

Tell yourself that it will all be worth it when he's bringing those grandbabies to visit you in a few years.

[MomwithFive]

<<edited to add that the therapist works really hard at helping him re-write the script and see a more realistic view, and helping him understand where the blame and guilt is coming from.>>

That's good that he is willing to participate and "hear" this from the therapist. I hope he continues to heal. I know it can be draining, it sounds like he is so lucky to have you in his life.