[Faith65]

Hi All,

We heard from B's permacy worker this past week. The subdisy packet is all set to go. Probate signed on it last week. Worker is coming out Thursday for our signatures. Friday it will be submitted to Probate for our adoption date! Should be finalized by mid November. Just a year from termination.

Now for the problem. Over the last two weeks I have been having nightmares. These nightmares consist of either the bio mom stealing B from me or my brother whom we all thought for years was B's bio dad. (My brother and I do not have a relationship.) I have meant bio dad a couple times but no nightmares about him. He went to termination hearings and signed his rights right over right than and there.


Is this normal to be having these nightmares? I hate how they are making me feel. I know that no one can take her from me. She has been in state care for over 6 years and the rulings are very clear about them never getting her back and her staying with me. But..........

Even in the begining I never had these fears or nightmares. Why now? And how do I get rid of them? Is this normal before finalization?

Thanks and sorry it's so long.

[waited2long]

I think the nightmares show just how much you love your child.

I think it's probably normal and they'll go away after finalization.

Congratulations!

[lucyjoy]

Faith, it'll be okay. You've really been pushed up and down waiting for this time to finally get here. It IS normal for you to fear that something will go wrong. IT WON'T. Take a deep breath and celebrate that this IS finally going to happen.

[Faith65]

Thank you both for your words.

Lucy, you are right with B she was in my life back in 99 when B and her sister lived with me for a year. Than all the fall out from that.

Than it's been 2 1/2 years before now. Your right it's been lots of up and downs. Even for her.

Waited, only you all would understand the love we feel for our kids.

I keep telling her that the labors pains will be over soon! That 2 1/2 years is way to long! LOL Only elphants carry that long.

Thanks again.

[Lylac]

Faith, I'm so happy to finally see an end to this..or maybe I should say a beginning. It's perfectly normal.
Although I knew nobody was gonna come take B from me..deep deep down where my evil mind lives, I still had the ugly "what if's" lurking around.

With L, well I didn't sleep well until the moment the judge signed the final decree.

With baby A, I won't sleep until she's home (then I prolly won't sleep then either)

You've had to stay "onguard" for so long with your daughter, that now it's HARD to just let that part go.
Trust US!!! Everything will be ok soon.

Congrats on your upcoming Adoption day!!

p.s Adopting a child is SO much like being in labor..you just have pain in different places