[arkansas parent]

T started preschool Monday. We told his teacher very little about his past behaviors. I guess we were hoping since we had not seen them in months they would not come back. We were WRONG. Wendsday was the first day I didn't eat breakfast with him at school.He was of course a little sad that I didn't stay with him. I kept him home Thrusday. Today when we dropped him off he was just fine until he thought we left.( We were watching through the window). He started pooching out his bottom lip and saying he was sad. The teacher of coarse gave him atttection. Then when it was time to pick him up the first thing out of his mouth was a lie.The teacher told us the truth. T finially admitted he lied.
When I ask him why he pouted after we left, he said "you don't know what I done you was gone" I explain we was watching him threw the window. He then said he thought the teacher would give him a peace of candy if he was sad.
T has some issues with candy. If he sees a peice of candy or somthing that looks like candy he thinks he has to have it. We cant have any candy in the house, because he will ask 100x day for some. If you give him a peice it gets worse.(we do let him have candy but we can only buy him one peice we can't have it in the house.) I am guessing he had seen some candy at school and was trying to figure out how to get a peice.
I talked to his teacher this afternoon to let her know what was going on. She said he is really starting to test her. He loves to see if he can get adults to do/find stuff for him. She made the mistake of letting him look at a book one day insteed of nap. She said today he asked her for a new book every couple of minutes. She said he was such a gentleman the first day, but things are starting to change. I explained he is a VERY well behaved little boy if he knows he cant trick you.
I told her this afternoon not to give him any attection if he pouts when we leave. We also told her to make him stay quite and still during nap time (no books). And not to beleive him when he says he cant find something. We ended up telling her almost every bad behavior he has had in the past,since it looks like he may start doing some of those things again. She now know what to look out for. I just feel stupid for not thinking he would do some of the things he is doing.

I should tell you I know he hasn't done anything major. But if they don't set him straight now it will get BAD.

I should also mention T is a very good kids. He very raraly gets in trouble at home. He just like to see what he can get away with,with people who don't know him well.

[waited2long]

Don't be so hard on yourself. I think you actually had to see if he was past some of his behaviours or not. Now that you know he isn't ready and the teacher is informed, things should improve.
Smile, it sounds like the teacher "gets" it!

[arkansas parent]

Thankfully his teacher does get it. As soon as he sees she wont let him get away with stuff he will go back to being the good little boy he is at home. I had a talk with T after we spoke to his teacher. I told him everything I told her. He now knows she knows what he is doing, so maybe that will help. I am trying to decided if it would be better if I spend more time at school with him.

[waited2long]

I think it's great that you can spend time at the school! I say take it a day at a time for a little while.

[momraine]

I know my son told the psyciatrist the other day all about how he used to trick his teachers at school last year. He was bragging about it!!! He had just met this lady and was telling her the truth about everyone!! I was shocked, usually he tries to trick every adult. I think he thought this might be the only time he saw her, (nope, we will be seeing a lot of her even though it's a two hour drive) He also told her that he was afraid that he might not be able to trick his new teacher because she was a friend of his mom's and his mom had warned her about most of his tricks. I was pleased to hear him say mom is hard to trick. He doesnt' try very much anymore except in regards to eating. He was telling her stuff that I didn't know about too, all with me in the room. Anyway, I think letting him know that you had a talk with the teacher and she knows about his tricks will help.

[Indy]

You are being a good parent by helping your child do what is right even when you are not around. I always teach the boys that "integrity is doing the right thing when you think no one is watching". All of them can quote you that definition (except J4, still working with him), they are still working to perfect the behavior.

Great job Mom!