[2manyks]

i hope this is in the right place. my 7 yo daughter was sent home from school today. she pulled a boys pants down at recess. she has been sexually abused.. we are aware of this and are very careful at home. how can i be careful at school when i am not there? she doesnt act out very often, but occasionally things happen. my friend was here and thought the school overacted. with a *normal* kid, yes, this would be an over-reaction, but with kids like my dd.... i dont know how to react. how to punish. we have been teaching about body respect, but it takes a long time and sometimes a child cant be completely changed.

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

BTW - we have been to counseling in the past, but are not seeing a therapist right now.

[scandi]

When I had an incident with my two boys - fairly recently I did not "punish" but talked with them about appropriate boundaries, good touch, bad touch etc. I also talked with the therapists we were working with.

maybe looking at therapy again would be helpful

just my experiences
scandi

[crick]

Many - this forum doesn't get too many views, so I've moved your thread to the "special needs" forum. Simply because a lot of folks there have experience in these types of behaviors and tons of resources to offer too.

[lucyjoy]

Maybe it's time to revisit therapy? I know with my kids, things would come up from time to time and we'd return to therapy for a while. She may be experiencing memories that she doesn't understand or doesn't know how to do with which is causing her to act out.

I would also revisit the good and bad touch issue and some line of sight supervision at home. I would suggest the school keep a closer eye on her as well since they know it is a problem.

[Lorraine123]

Have you let the school know of her possible actions? I would let them know right away and let them know that they MUST keep and eye on her at all times. I had to do this with my daughter. Which meant she could not go to the bathroom without an adult present, she could not play on the playground without line of sight supervision of an adult, she could not even play in a corner of the room without an adult. Her school took it seriously. I think I scared them, but to me, it was very serious. Not only did I want other kids safe from her, I wanted her safe from herself.

Therapy is needed, IMO