[vesw01]

The caseworker won't answer any of our emails or anything and she left with a weeks worth of stuff. She has none of her personal items with her.

[aMarylandfamily]

Making a list of everything you have, box them up (even how many pairs of socks, etc.), put her name on the boxes along with that of the caseworker ... call (vs. e-mail) the caseworker and advise you have them ready for her - notifying her you will be bringing them by the office on such and such a date if they have not been picked up ... and do it ...

And with regard to your other post ... all the feelings you are experiencing are normal as another poster wrote ... it is so hard for you to understand two things -why she didn't fight for your world and why you couldn't make it work ... but there aren't any answers to either -and its not that couldn't make it work - its that she needs help in ways that you cannot and in order for her to get that help you have to take the initial step (letting go) to force the issue. You are doing the right things and it is the courage it takes to do them that is the love your courage is sharing! Keep that in mind ...

Our thoughts and hugs are with you!

[zebramom]

I agree with Maryland. The agency is doing a dis-service to her if they do not get her things. Document your attempts to contact them with dates and times, then take the things to the office if necessary.

Give yourself permission to feel everything that you are feeling. Whether it was your decision or not, it's still an emotional time. Set aside time every day to really feel everything, and time to grieve. And yes, relief is a perfectly normal emotion right now too.

[DianeS]

Ditto what Maryland said, and get the receptionist's signature that you dropped off X number of boxes containing A, B, C, property of Child A... on a certain date and time.

[kay]

Ditto to everyone else. Box up her things (with a friend's help, if possible - it may be hard!) and give the worker a deadline.

[pez collector]

I am sorry that you are going through this. It is so hard. We recently went through the same thing with a sibling group. It was like a death in the family. We were able to send some of their things with them. We had to pack up the rest of their things and take it to them. I agree that you need to allow yourself to feel these emotions.

Thinking of you-

[po]

we have had similar situations. In one instance they picked up most of the things, but left a bicycle. Month later I informed them i was not a storage unit and what did they want me to do with it. ( they had already told me they did not want it dropped off) They told me that I could get rid of it. Over a year later they called and wanted the bike. I informed the person that called that the head of the agency had told me over a year ago to get rid of it. She said Oh and that was the end of it. Go to the head of the agency and tell her that you have made at attempt to get ahold of the cw about the things and ask her what to do with them.

[ajjhmf]

I agree with the otehr posters about how to handle her stuff.

Packing it is going to be hard though, so try and have help. When D left, Andy and I packed his stuff at night while watching movies. It gave us something else to think about. Or atleast try and think about. Sorry you are going through this.