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Originally Posted By yrand

I just talked to my attorney and she says the hearing is being moved towards TPR in August! A whole year has passed and
now a so-called "surrogate mother" to the birthmom is being reviewed as a possible placement.So where has this woman been for 2 years?Anyway the GAL doesn't think much of this ploy.The
mom ran off with another black man (her new husband's fears finally came home to roost)and I guess she left the new baby with him.My attorney says that indeed the former CW gave the
new CW alot of input on me so we know what she had to say.So
at this point I'm just gonna hang tough and let the chips fall where they may.The GAL has my homestudy and she's in my corner and my attorney is on it too.I am furious that the CW was not reigned in from spreading her venom but she will reap
what she sowed some day.

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Originally Posted By po

I have been where you are, and want to wish you the best. I don't have much faith in the system in you getting the kids, but hope that I am wrong. We spent alot of money on lawyers to get the kids back that had been placed with us for 3 1/2 years. We filed adoption petitions on the 5 and never did hear what happened to them. Evidently they do not have to respond. I had been told that if you had petitions out for the kids it would prevent anyone else from getting them. not true in my case. They kept those kids in care another 4 years. I hope you can get closure before then.

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I have been where you are, and want to wish you the best. I don't have much faith in the system in you getting the kids, but hope that I am wrong. We spent alot of money on lawyers to get the kids back that had been placed with us for 3 1/2 years. We filed adoption petitions on the 5 and never did hear what happened to them. Evidently they do not have to respond. I had been told that if you had petitions out for the kids it would prevent anyone else from getting them. not true in my case. They kept those kids in care another 4 years. I hope you can get closure before then.

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Originally Posted By yrand

Like I mentioned this is bigger than just my case.The FEDS are
doing a systemic review of this whole case and this new county will be included in the complaint if they show that they have allowed bias from the previous worker to taint their view of a prospective adoptive parent.These girls were supposed to have been placed with me a year ago but for her meddling.Now they are set for TPR yet again and they better not try and place with some unknown person who was never mentioned a year ago.For all I know it's her new man's mama and not an old family friend at all she's such a consummate liar!

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Originally Posted By AC

to see what happened with your case. So did/was there a hearing or did they just postpone and move to summer? I think the whole situation stinks epecially the way they're treating you and those girls. It seems the ones who will benefit the most is treated the worst. What taking them so long to TPR and also why were they placing them with you if they weren't? It just doesn't make sense!

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Originally Posted By yrand

The hearing was held today and they scheduled TPR for Aug. so
they can homestudy everyone in Denver county in the meantime.
It is rather ridiculously obvious at this point that they've
painted themselves into a corner but we shall see what's next
on the agenda.

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Originally Posted By louise

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Originally Posted By yrand

YRAND

When I got, whatever I got, I thought about you. Should I fight or just walk away. Now I don't have to tell YOU how walking away from anything like a good fight went down with me.

But after some prayer, it occurred to me that the workers were just too weird. (As Mike is already learning) I found myself giving them scenarios that we could anticipate. That scared me. And when this kid acted out, everybody pays. I could them tying my hands as a parent and then blaming me when everything fell apart, using that as an excuse to retrieve him. That's OK

So I walked away (from him, not the fight - as you already know) I’ve since been placed with a boy. He's acting out on his end to try to put a roadblock on the adoption. He had interrupted previously. I think he figured out that having a father who teaches at a prison would not be an easy card to play so he had better try anything he can on his turf. Smart kid. His worker continues to be hopeful, but I see this as drawing out so I opened my option, determined not to be broadsided again.

Get out there Yolanda, cast your bread on the water. You're not getting any younger (that's what I remind myself) if it's meant to be, it will happen. Before I was officially placed with my son Andrew, I kept my studies out there I said, "Lord open, or closed the door as YOU WILL, not my will." and he did, and He will. I know you have a lot of money and time invested in this proposition. Been there too. I had to think of it as a trip to Europe, I could swallow that. Anyway it worked for me, you'll have to come up with your own analogies.

You go girl…

Your bro...

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Originally Posted By Keagan

YRAND

When I got, whatever I got, I thought about you. Should I fight or just walk away. Now I don't have to tell YOU how walking away from anything like a good fight went down with me.

But after some prayer, it occurred to me that the workers were just too weird. (As Mike is already learning) I found myself giving them scenarios that we could anticipate. That scared me. And when this kid acted out, everybody pays. I could them tying my hands as a parent and then blaming me when everything fell apart, using that as an excuse to retrieve him. That's OK

So I walked away (from him, not the fight - as you already know) I’ve since been placed with a boy. He's acting out on his end to try to put a roadblock on the adoption. He had interrupted previously. I think he figured out that having a father who teaches at a prison would not be an easy card to play so he had better try anything he can on his turf. Smart kid. His worker continues to be hopeful, but I see this as drawing out so I opened my option, determined not to be broadsided again.

Get out there Yolanda, cast your bread on the water. You're not getting any younger (that's what I remind myself) if it's meant to be, it will happen. Before I was officially placed with my son Andrew, I kept my studies out there I said, "Lord open, or closed the door as YOU WILL, not my will." and he did, and He will. I know you have a lot of money and time invested in this proposition. Been there too. I had to think of it as a trip to Europe, I could swallow that. Anyway it worked for me, you'll have to come up with your own analogies.

You go girl…

Your bro...

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Originally Posted By Pam

I'm really sorry. I know you'd care for those girls like nobody else would. If you fight this hard to get them, without giving up (and I hope you still don't give up) you'd be a wonderful advocate for them. I hope, in the end, you get the girls. Sadly, the system doesn't always have the kid's best interests in mind. Take care.

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I'm so sorry to hear that haven't jumped through hoops to place these children with the only parent can take perfect care of them and who WANTS them! How frustrated you must be - you and the girls are in my prayers.

Lara

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Originally Posted By yrand

Hey I didn't mean I was giving up just that my attorney and the GAL will handle things from here.Since the CW has really overstepped her bounds in this case there will be reprecussions and there isn't anything I need to do from here.
August is the baby's and my birthday and I look forward to having a big party for us.Whoever this so called surrogate mother is didn't do such a great job with the birth mom so what makes them think she'll do any better with my girls?

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Originally Posted By yrand

I believe God when He says "He renews my strength like the eagle", and "I will restore unto you the years that the locust ate up."

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Originally Posted By Jerry

I would think that people could at least try and put their petty bias's and so forth aside to really work for the kids. It's one thing to not like someone, but to me anyway, it would seem that there are far greater concerns on the table than my personal feelings and back biting someone that I didn't care for!!!

Well, you've got great tenacity yrand, I'm proud to know you!!!

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Originally Posted By yrand

Thanks Jerry my middle name is tenacity!They probably figured I'd give up by now and that's why they suddenly came up with this surrogate mother story.If there was anyone they missed interviewing in that family they should have showed up two years ago.This is just Plan B since I'm still here.What's
really irking them is how fast I'm getting the info on what they're doing behind closed doors.The FEDS investigator says she was told by the city attorney the girls are NOT coming up for placement yet a total LIE what else does TPR mean? She wanted to know how the investigator heard about this.HA!HA!A
little black fly was on the courtroom wall y'all!