[wenrl]

I guess this is a big day of negativity for this mom and I wonder if I am in over-reacting mode and will regret this later, but oh well, I'm going for it anyway.

I know all posts about GLBT forum need to go on the link Lorraine posted, but I don't want to sign off without saying goodbye to all my peeps here.

You have all been great and I have enjoyed coming here for quite some time. I've learned so much and made some good friends.

However, I don't feel right in being so involved in anything that practices open-discrimination, especially toward my family regardless of how much coming here has meant to me. I don't care about the reasons this keeps happening. The excuses don't work anymore no matter how well-intentioned they may sound. I'll be taking my "business" elsewhere.

For the next few days I'll be finishing up old posts and printing out my journal, assuming I don't get shut out before then for having such a strong opinion about this and being anti-adoption.com.

I wish you all well and good luck. You've meant a lot to me.

I hope to see you in cyber-space...

-Wendy

[echaos]

Wendy!

Thanks for your support. I'm personally very torn as to what I'm going to do, as I have so many friends and such great support here. Right now I'm awaiting Brandy's return and riding things out for a few days.

I do not see any reason why you would be "shut out" and I will do everything in my power to ensure that that does not happen!!!

[aMarylandfamily]

Closing up shop as you worded it only enables those who caused the friction on the site which has now been eliminated ... wouldn't it be more powerful to keep posting on other sites and remaining active in your commitment to adoption itself not the folks who say you can't do something ...

Please know this is not a dig at anyone ... I just feel that anyone who jumps ship because of one or more negative posters should retake a look at their commitment and come back more determined than not to not only get the support you will need but to give it to others in need.

[Lorraine123]

Wendy,

I totally understand your position. You will be greatly missed and I wish you the best in your search for another placement. I feel like our daughters have so much in common and I regret that this situation came to be. Good luck to you.

Lorraine

[mckenna]

i don't think it would be more powerful to keep posting, i think it would be more powerful to post else where. wendy, if you find a site or someone willing to start a new one, please pm. i would love to be able to join a more inclusive forum that is regularly trafficed (is that even a word?)

[Jensboys]

I just wanted to say PLEASE dont give in. They want to silence your voice here on the forums - dont allow their attitude to win.

If in fact, you do choose to go, please know I have valued your contribution to the forums.

Jen

[pez collector]

Please hang in there. I have learned so much from you. Even though we are now going to adopt from Guatemala, I still come over and check how my "buddies" are doing. There is so much support on this board. I truly believe that there are good people here. As is it anywhere, we have to take the bad with the good.

Thinking of you-

[Opus]

Wendy -

Please know that I also understand and support your position. Perhaps, as mckenna said, we can get another forum going somewhere else. Take care.

[AwaitingBeloved]

This is awful.

Wendy, I am so sorry that you feel you're being pushed out. I can understand your wanting to not be a part of this forum anymore. I have very much enjoyed your posts, I often lurked and read about the strains and the joys you have had with your DD. I will miss you and your posts.

Maybe take a few days and think about this, if this is what you really want. I can respect that you may be tired of fighting for equal rights. But maybe you could post under General Adoptive Parents or under chit chat or someplace where you can start your threads with: Non Traditional Family looking for help with (whatever) or something else like this. That way you could still have your forum friends here support you and guide you. I do not blame you if you chose not to return. I just am saddened by the loss, and what I am sure will continue to be more losses.

My best to you, Wendy.

[leaabc123]

Please know this is not a dig at anyone ... I just feel that anyone who jumps ship because of one or more negative posters should retake a look at their commitment and come back more determined than not to not only get the support you will need but to give it to others in ne

Go back and re-examine the issue. The "alternative family" forums weren't removed due to negative posters. The owners of the site removed them for other reasons.

I am also re-examining my role on this site and wondering what my next step should be so you definitely aren't alone.

[Howdy]

There seems to be a site called www.families.com that has all sorts of message boards and I've seen names in the adoption ones of people who used to post here.

It is nice to have choices. I have no idea what this thread is about though.

[Jensboys]

Howdy - that forum is owned by the same company as these forums. This thread is about the fact the company owner that owns these forums removed the non-traditional family support forum because it catered to the Gay and Lesbian familes.

[momatlast]

Thank you Howdy. I've bookmarked that site and if enough of us adoption.com forum members jump ship, am happy to do so too.

[SuzBerg]

I have enjoyed reading your posts and about your DD T. You will be missed! Best Wishes - Suz

[leenab]

Wendy,
You're going to be missed. There is a forum on EZ Boards, Fostering-Adopting Older children- Saving the World One child at a time. They are very accepting there and there are quite a few non-traditional families.

I can't believe adoption.com is turning into.

-Leena