[Original Mike]

Well, there is nothing new to report here.

I last spoke with E's worker Thursday afternoon, before the boys went off to weekend respite. He was on his way out, but said he'd call me Friday morning to finish our discussion. Well, it's Tuesday afternoon and I've heard nothing. I did send an email to him late Sunday night so he'd have it Monday morning. In the email, I discussed some of the great ideas you folks have given. Still, no word.

While lack of responsiveness may be the norm with a lot of workers, this has not been the case here. This guy has always called back promptly or replied to emails. This "disappearing act" is really out of character for him. My gut tells me that he's just not sure how to break the bad news.

Jean weighed in on the situation this morning. Her take is that I need to stop setting myself up for these crashes and just stop "all this nonsense". She and I are going to do dinner this weekend.

[tmjbstark]

I'm hoping your worker has a good excuse like an emergency or gathering information on your case and is not just laying low out of fear of disappointing you!

[Tudu]

The waiting is awful, we are doing it too. Let's hope they are creative with their excuses and it's good news.

[bjolly]

I'm sorry you have no news yet -- I know this has to feel pretty lousy. I wouldn't give up hope, but I understand why you're not optimistic. : (

If the worker hasn't gotten back to you yet, my guess is that things are still up in the air on their end. If he had bad news he would probably have let you know and gotten it over with.

I'm glad you have good friends to lean on right now. sending hugs your way...

Beth

[Faith65]

Mike,

Sorry to hear that your still waiting for news. For some reason it's only Tuesday and it all ready has been a very long week.

I'm having one of those weeks too.

[aspenhall]

In my experiences, no news means just that.....no news...perhaps he is simply waiting to call until he has something difinitive to tell you...doesn't wanna speak too soon either way.

[leaabc123]

Could he be out of the office or sick?

[aMarylandfamily]

Could it be the workers want to conference (in person with or without boys to get realistic outcome of their discussions over the weekend) before calling you ... sometimes getting 2 together can be tough let alone 4 ... patience and hope ... never give it up until you have to ... thinking of and sending wishes your way!

[Barksum]

Try not to build towers of speculation about what might be happening. It's a killer, but you'll have to wait to hear what is going on for real instead of trying to figure it out via telepathic vibes. Don't panic. Stay calm. (Do I sound like one of those airline disaster movies yet?) E's cw probably does have a reason for not getting back in touch right away, especially if he is normally reliable to do that. We're all rooting for you.

[Lylac]

I agree with everyone else, E's cw is just probally out of the office.
However I hate to wait (which thats all I've been doing lately) and since you have somewhat good communication with E's FM, I would call her (without E knowing) just to see if there's anything that she might could tell you. I wouldn't be pushy (not saying that you would), but just a simple "Hi, how is E doing? I've been thinking about him, etc.. The not knowing is a killer, and our minds (mine especially) tend to think the worst, when we don't hear anything.

[Kerbchek]

Thanks for posting an update...I've kinda been wondering if you've heard anything. The waiting has to be horrible... but don't beat yourself up. It's hard saying why you haven't heard anything yet...

[lucyjoy]

Well, you could decide to stop all this nonsense. Of course, that means deciding not to have more kids. Unfortunately, nonsense is a requirement for special needs adoption.

In the worker's defense, these kids need a little time. They needed to talk to each other. They need to digest the talk on their own. They need to talk to their workers. You're last on the list.

[ajjhmf]

Lucy has a good point. Give it a couple more days and then call. It's a lot to process for them.

It really could be ANYTHING that's keeping the worker from calling you. Once during a D crisis, I couldn't get a hold of our worker for days. Turns out her daughter was sick and wasn't available for a few days. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the kids, the case or us. It's just life.

In the meantime, did you know that they are putting out a R2-D2 and Princess Leia Potato Head?

[Deana]

Mike,
These kids are in Colorado right? Well I am betting that DHS has been closed due to snow. I am in Nebraska and everything here has been closed down the last two days due to 24 inches of snow. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the case in Colorado also. I hope you get news soon.

[Kerbchek]

Deana, Excellent point... we had snow here in Iowa today... not as much as Nebraska and Colorado... but I had been watching the storm head our way... I bet you are right!