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Originally Posted By Pam

I admit they were awesome and very open about how they manage as single parents. Almost all of them worked out of the home. All had supportative extended family. They were far more intelligent than your average person, as a group. The kids were basically doing just as well as any older adopted kids who spent time in foster care. Nobody seemed suicidal or ready to give up due to not having a spouse to help...hehe. My hat goes off to this special group of people who opeend their hearts to difficult children A few adopted kids from India who turned out to have rather severe medical problems, yet they were coping and doing so well.

I guess I have to cook a Crow Pie and have it for dinner (grin).

I have a new sense of renewed support for single parents. After all, what the kids need most is love and dedication )

Just felt a need to right my wrong (this all happened last night). I actually didnt' realize it, but I had gone to a group of ONLY single adoptive parents. I was the only one who was married. So keep up the good work!!!!

Ok, off the soap box!

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Originally Posted By Yvette

You were always concerned for the children and that's what it's all about. I should know soon if my dreams of being a single parent will come true by the end of the year. Happy Holidays.

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Originally Posted By Mike

Pam:

I'm glad you wandered into that group. In my classes, I was the only single guy (there were two single women), but the rest were all "normal" married couples, so I know what its like to feel out of place.

I'm glad you brought up about extended family. It is VERY important. I would not be doing this if not for the support of my family and friends. They've been great. One of the stereotypes of single adoptive parents is that we are career-driven yuppies who dont really have time for a kid, but are being chased down by our biological clocks. NOT TRUE!

In short, you didnt need to apologize. One of the great things about this group is that we disagree and we still get along. Thanks! : )

Mike

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Originally Posted By barki

With my luck the power will go off and I won't be able to check on all the goings on! LOL Every time it snows (and I mean EVERY time) our power goes out. It's not like it's uncommon to have snow, either. The lady at the switch board at the power company knows me by name. Is that pathetic or what?? LOL

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Originally Posted By barki

Not the crow pie -- I've always got a foot in my mouth so it's too crowded to try any pie -- but I've noticed that we can usually agree to disagree and don't have to have fangs bared and employ referees. I appreciate that about this board. )

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Originally Posted By yrand

I saw something the other nite at the mall.Two parent family
with two little girls in tow running up and down the hallway screaming.They had somehow left one of their kids behind and
were frantically looking around while the two little ones were panicking calling their brother's name.I told them not to panic he's probaly still looking at toys in one of the stores they were in and to go to the security office and report it.Sure enough 5 minutes later he turned up probaly more scared from their reactions than anything.Anyway I said that to say here were two parents and they couldn't keep up with their kid whereas a single parent would know they have to keep an eagle eye watching their kid since they don't have anyone to back them up.

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Originally Posted By Pam

Maybe he was sending me a message At any rate, I am so glad I went there. I met some of the greatest people, and most remarkable parents, I ever met, and they invited me to come back!!! I felt a great need to apologize to all the single parent wannabes on this board, and a desire to express my unwavering support.

And that Crow Pie didn't taste bad...kind of tasted good!

Thanks all for your understanding

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Originally Posted By Ann

It never seems to amaze me who single parents are still frowned upon. I remember being the only single parent in my adoption classes and you would have thought I was a hippy or a cyclops from some of the responses I got when the couples would say something like "We can't seem to manage..." or "I can't imagine my child coming home to an empty house..." or "We need help.." or "I can't understand how..." I finally told them to "Give me a BREAK" you do what you have to do as a single parent. My children are as happy and well adjusted than probably some two parent families. My children don't go home to a empty house that's what daycare and grandma are for. No my children don't get their every whim but they don't go without either. They understand the value of money and if I don't have the money for something I tell them and I've taught them let me know in advance and they understand and we've never had a problem. My son keeps up with my pay weeks better than I do so when that Friday comes around he'll ask to burgers because he knows we can. We go bike riding daily to the parks, etc. A family is a family regardless if one parent or two. I tell everyone "I'd rather have my kids in a happy loving home with one parent than unhappy in a two parent home that doesn't have their act together"