[Wanting2help]

Hello everyone, I had beed sitting around contemplating life and it's little mystery's when yall came back into my thoughts. I wanted to come on and tell everyone hi again and that you are constantly in my thoughts. As you know my dw and myself had a setback a couple of months ago in our process and had to temporarily pull out to get things completed for the state. Well I basically ended up with two very bad heartbreaks over the process and decided to distance myself until I could at least see some hint of success in order not to get my hopes and dreams daashed again. I think gods plan is to teach me the patience that I thought I already had to raise a child or two. that seems to be the only thing I can come up with at the moment and it really does make sense (I always try to find a good reason for anything bad). Well the situation is getting better since my dw has been seeing a new sw that has experience with these types of cases through the state and what they require from us. he has actually been better then we thought because he has turned out to make my dw look at all of the bad things that can happen with adoption of special need kids. at one point he had her really scared, but that changed when I brought it to her attention that we had already covered that in class (how quickly we can forget). I sent her back to him this week with a request for nothing but good senario's or cases that he has experienced. he simply told her that you really do not here about the good cases very often because those parents do not need theraphy LOL. he has promised that he was writing her the needed letter on 9-15. he basically just wanted to have enough time to make sure the state could not say that they had no client relationship (makes good sense). he has requested dw to look into the process of getting outselves put off of the temporary hold process. I still feel that it is too soon to get my hopes up just yet (just wait until we get that letter and our last homestudy visit).

Well I have been keeping track of the goings on but like I stated in my earlier post I did not feel right posting regularly here at this time (my way of keeping my hopes down I think) and I will still be slow to respond to any post intil I get over that hurdle. I just wanted to say HI EVERYONE! you have my prayers (especially when your post have shown you need it).

One laast thing, INDY, Why didn't you just shove that shoulder of yours into the wall like Mel Gibson did on Lethal Wepon, he made it look real easy you know! LOL

[Barksum]

Glad to hear from you. Sounds like you are cautiously moving forward. It is actually really good that you and your Dw have had chance to engage in the extra discussions generated by her current sw. That's a plus; most people get into adoption from the foster system with little or no true idea of what that can encompass. Most classes touch lightly on many theoretical situations but not so many actual, nitty gritty kinds of things. (Yeah, it all sounds nitty gritty when you are in class, but the reality is way more intense.)

Hope all continues to go forward for you and your Dw.