[bostonbeagle]

Thanks everyone, we are disrupting our placement! She assaulted me today by tromping up and down on my foot until she broke my toe!
We have tried eveything in our power, and with advice on here, and this today! We made the call to have her removed out of our home, it isn't worth it anymore! I should have listened, but instead my eyes was blind! good luck with eveything and wish everyone the best with your future endeavors!
Bostonbeagle

[aMarylandfamily]

Having experienced both a disruption (for similar reasons) and a child currently in out-of-home placement, we understand more than most and wish to share our hearts with you. Know we care and vent, talk, cry here - no matter how necessary it still hurts more than one can ever imagine until they are here and done this for real.

Take care ... grieve ... heal ... and then make decisions for your future - not today from the emotions - that advice was given us and it does make a difference!

[Indy]

You have not done anything to anyone here.

You are in our thougths and prayers as well.

[kllee4]

Wishing you and your family all the beset and hoping that she gets the help that she needs.

[missw005]

Boston,

You are strong enough to do what's best for you and your family. NEVER apologize for that!!! In fcare and adoption, the only person who will watch out for your best interests (besides us ) is YOU. Never deny that right or power to the SWers telling you "what's best for the child." You have to put yourselves first.
I'm sorry for the disruption. But I'm happy you've made the right decision for you and your family.
You're in my thoughts.......

Sandy

[Katey]

Boston,

It sounds like you did what you needed to do for everyone's safety. Providing safety is every parents primary job after giving love. You don't need to appologize for providing safety. I am sure you did the right thing.

KC

[kay]

Boston,

I'm so sorry. I've been there, I know the pain. Please be kind to yourself, and give yourself time to heal - both physically and emotionally. Keep posting here, if it will help . . . You're in my prayers.
--kay

[crick]

Sorry to hear of the disruption...I know it wasn't an easy decision. Like the others, no need to apologize for doing what's best for your family.

Really think she needs a theraputic home to be in so she can heal and hopefully the sw's will be able to find that for her.

[lucyjoy]

The state should never have placed this child without full disclosure. Sorry it didn't work out but better to decide early on then to continue without the needed information and resourses.
Hopefully, the state workers will realize that this child's issues are serious and she needs the right resources to become healthy.

[tybeemarie]

I agree with everyone else--no need to apologize at all. If workers make you feel that you have to apologize, realize that these are people who have never lived with an emotionally disturbed child, and thus have no idea what they are talking about. Fostering shows us, in the starkest terms, that good parenting means knowing your own limits. By recognizing your family's limits, you are being a good parent to EVERYONE. I am truly sorry for all the heart ache and grief you all are suffering and will suffer. Know that you have a sympathetic and undertanding audience here. God bless you in your time of sorrow!