[confused85]

Hi, I was just wondering if anyone think anyone would want to adopt and love a little boy with autism? I have the most beautiful wonderful son in the world. And I am considering giving him up for adoption. I love my baby more than anything else in the world. I can't even explain it from the moment I felt him move inside of me to the exact second I first laid eyes on him I didn't understand how I could love someone so much that I didn't even know. I had my son when I was 16 and I dropped out of school when I was in eighth grade My husband works but I can't b/c I can't find a job to cover daycare costs ( I also have another son thats a year younger) My oldest boy has autism and he needs a special therpy called ABA to help hiim learn so many many children with autism have went through this program and became normal little boys and girls but it costs up to 60,000 dollors a year and we only make 20,000. I have tried to get grants I've wrote to the governor talk show hosts everything. I know my son caould be a normal little boy I just can't afford to help him. I hope this makes since I can't see the screen for crying. Someone please reply

[tybeemarie]

Dear Confused,

I am sorry to read the deep pain evident in your post. Would someone adopt an autistic child? Yes. I believe there are no unwanted children, just unfound families. The real question is not whether someone would adopt your son. The real question is whether you truly want to make an adoption plan for your child. It sounds as if you are really looking for services for your son. Have you tried getting a medical card for you son? Or SSI? Depending on your child's age, he may be eligible for early intervention services or an individual education plan through the public school system. You might check out the local chapter of the Autism Society of America. They might be able to point you to resources to help you help your child. If you are considering making an adoption plan for your child because you feel you can't get him the services he needs, it is important to really be sure you've exhausted all your options first. If, however, you've concluded that the demands of his autism are more than you can handle, that is a very good reason to make an adoption plan for your child. May God support you and give you wisdom in this difficult time.

[Jensboys]

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[confused85]

My son does recieve medicade and SSI however the thearpy he needs does not accept medicade and SSI would only be enough to pay for less than 1% He is also in our states early intervention program where he sees a speech therpist and an OT he also has a developmental ped and regaular ped. This helps him some but some just isn't good enough for my son. ABA is an intensive one on one program lasting between 20 and 40 hour a week priced at the least $40 dollars an hour. That is what he needs to become what he can be I know it in my heart and it kills me not to be able to provide him with this.I'm not trying to find adoptive parents I just wanted to know if anyone has or knows of anyone who has adopted a child with special needs. Yes we have already tried to get a loan and have contacted local and national autism groups to try to get funding for ABA. I do NOT want to put my son up for adoption I'm not even sure I could function if I did but if there is no other alternative to get him the help he needs we will consider it. Also it is not the demands of autism that has me considering this I love taking care of my babys.

[tybeemarie]

Jensboys,

I'm truly sorry if my reply violated the service terms. I get so much from the forums and I appreciate you volunteers who are moderators for us. I promise to be more careful in the future.

[Jensboys]

No your post didnt violate at all. It was just a general warning for future viewers

Jen

[Gabby'sNana]

Confused,
I don't think adoption is the solution for you. Surely there are other programs that would help. The ABA program is not life or death for your son. Do not do anything rash. Talk to your child's drs and therapists and see if you can get him extra help. I do hope you find the help you need, I'll be praying for you!
Peace,
Kelly