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Originally Posted By Yvette

Hi

My name is Yvette. Been here several times before. I was supposed to start reading profiles and meeting with children in March. Now it's May. Well... anyway, I'm going to an adoption festival this week. My agency says we should be back on track by month's end. I'm not too bummed out because this whole process is too exciting! Since I'm aiming for a daughter ( and Keagan I know she is out there waiting for me) I've picked up a few items. I'm trying to resist the temptation of going overboard but I just saw the most adorable bedroom set!! I want this so bad and I am so sure that this is right that I can almost picture us together, almost touch her. Without ever having seen a child, I already love and adore her. Best wishes and God's speed to everyone. I'll check in again when I have more news.

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Originally Posted By Linda

Before anything was even remotely settled on my children I was busy shopping for new beds, clothes, toys etc. I didn't purchase any beds. But boy did I look! But since hearing that it looks very good I know exactly what I want for each child's room. I am looking everywhere for the Little Tikes race car bed for him. And the girls....well I am still looking for the perfect beds.

But boy is my closet filled with clothes!! I had the most fun with that. Of course because daddy to be is a huge golf
fanatic I had to buy children's (toy) golf clubs.

So I can completely understand you wanting to buy things to welcome your child home, even if you haven't met her yet.

Good luck. Even with all the waiting and sometimes heartache it is the most incredible time of your life. Enjoy.

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Originally Posted By yrand

Good grief Linda are we twins or what.Your partner is a golf
fanatic too! Mine was so proud of himself the other day he shot below 100.He listens to subliminal tapes everynite, studies his golf books,and tries to play at least once every week.He has his son taking lessons and he recently informed me that he took my club covers because I'm not a real golfer anyway so I did'nt need them.If Ed comes with you in June
I'm sure he would be up for a round so let me know.

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Originally Posted By Jerry

Don't even want to think about how much we've spent since daughter has been here, and at this point we don't know for how long.......But, she is Daddy's little girl...of course to her potential boyfreinds I am the all powerful, merciless, god of their universe. LOL!!!!!!

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Originally Posted By Linda

Ed doesn't listen to subliminal tapes but he does golf as much as possible. Last year he was in two golf leagues. And then he golfed a couple times a week besides that too.

This year though he is only in one golf league and hasn't been out much otherwise. More family responsibilities this year. But he gets out whenever he can. Plus he hunts, (spring gobbler & fall, buck, doe etc.) fishes and loves sports. All man let me tell you. But I like it. He will have so much to teach the little guy. Of course I hear my oldest girl is very much a tomboy. So maybe she will hunt, fish and golf also.

He will be coming to Denver with me in June. I think we will be there for four days. The plan is arrive on Thursday, to attend the meeting on Friday, meet the children, & have the children stay one night with us. But we will give you a call when we get there. Maybe they can get a round of golf in.

I can't wait to meet my kids!!!! I am getting more and more excited by the minute.

I am getting a new foster daughter tonight. She is 11 and boy is she tiny. She will only be here until June 8. I am an emergency placement home only. I take only the tough cases. Since I have been licensed in this county (since the end of March) I have had 4 placements.

By the way, my last placement I mentioned on here...the one I asked Jerry about. Well, she was escorted out by two state policeman about a week ago. She slammed me into a wall in one of her rages and broke the wall. Not to mention my door, the molding on a window and the molding on another door. I was really scared actually. For not only myself but for Ed and my daughter. Apparently she had been threatening my daughter and my daughter was too afraid to tell. I will tell everyone one thing. ALWAYS, ALWAYS get all information before you take a placement. I didn't. Of course it is hard when you are an emergency placement and only have hours to prepare. But in the two weeks she was here I never saw her caseworker, (she was from another county) I received no information on her or anything. They just dropped her off in front of the Staples store and I took her away. No papers to sign. Nothing. They didn't even know my name. They were just looking for someone driving a red minivan. I was appalled. I reported it to my worker and she was none too happy.

The little one I am getting tonight mirrors my daughter when I got her so I can handle anything she throws my way.

But after she leaves we aren't taking any more. Not even for emergencies (well....) because we will be busy getting ready for our children. We do need some down time also. 4 in less than two months with significant problems tends to burn you out a little. So I promised Ed that this was it. I feel bad because we were one of, if not the only, specialized emergency foster home in my county. But now we have to think of our children. Our children!! Sounds great.

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Originally Posted By yrand

No you shouldn't take in anymore problems you need your rest so you'll be ready for your kids.That girl sounds like a
real terror and you can't do anything to discipline them or it counts against you.Good ridence and I hate to say that about a child but you can't save them all.I first looked into
being a permenent foster parent and although it paid very good
one of the requirements were no other children in the home
because these were kids with severe behavioral problems like
that girl.I knew I wanted to adopt someday so I passed.You'll
be blessed for your effort anyway.

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Originally Posted By mike

Jerry (or is it LORD OF ALL HE SURVERYS)??

I got a chuckle reading your post. Let me pass along a little bit of my father's strategy when my sister (his only daughter) started dating.

Dad was a Cop for 30 years. In addition to the sqad car parked in our driveway, it always seemed that Dad would decide to clean his service revolver JUST BEFORE my sister's date arrived. Would he clean it in the basement or garage?? NO! He made sure to be cleaning this rather large firearm at the dining room table when the young man walked in.

You know, my sister never did have any problems with boyfriends. And, for the record, she married a cop.

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Originally Posted By barki

My dad is a former policeman, too! I could never understand why my friends of both genders were nervous around him. I had to laugh at your post, Mike, since my dad is very 'severe', crew cut and usually had his service revolver somewhere around.

And for the record, my husband isn't a policeman, but has done security jobs. He's the 'strong, silent type' and I can't understand why some of my friends were intimidated by him at first. . . .

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Originally Posted By Jerry

When I did date in high school I never had any of those menacing kind of experiences. I would have probably been so nervous I would've apologized and ran!
I did take a girl out once ( 1 time )who, and I understand it now, had a whole lot of those validation / self esteem problems. Her folks made a pooint of getting to know me and because of that it was a.......short date.