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Originally Posted By Bess

Hi there.
I have had trouble trying to get to the next section of the forum and could not access or post, so I have decided to give this a try.
I have posted before, but received little in the way of responses, I guess I have asked the wrong questions.
I see so many people interested in special needs children, and yet I can not seem to find even as much as a respite care provider who will take my son when I have to be away on an important trip or even a babysitter when I am unable to manage.
My son is a result of a sexual assault at age 25, he is now 11, going on 12 this July. His natural siblings have trouble caring for him now as his behaviours have affected their lives also.
It has been inferred that he has attachement disorder, OCD, and possibly schizoid personality disorder. There have been other diagnosis, but nothing concrete. The most common one we have recieved is something called, multiplex developemental disorder. His biological father is quite messed up and has many mental illnesses, he was also abused both sexually and physically as a child so some of his issues are envirormental aslo.
My son has not suffered any kind of abuse, although he still remains somewhat detached from the family, myself included. He was not treated any differently but differences in him were apparent by the time he was around 2 yrs old. He is incredibly smart and way ahead of himself mechanically and very behind academically. He can not read or write any more than a grade 1-2 level, but has very strong abilites in other ways.
He has little to no social ability with peers, he gets along wonderfully with adults and his extremely polite and friendly. He is in constant fights with other children as he looks and acts on the most part "normal" but before long other children find him annoying and target him as game, to get different reactions out of him, mostly unpleasant ones.
It has been suggested for years now to place him in a residential facility but it is hard for me to bring myslef to do that, as I feel he needs some nurturing that a residental setting can not provide.
How can I go about finding the right home for my son, and avoid having to resort to an institution.
I have been reading on here for months but can not seem to find a way to go about this without getting ivolved with agenices, I would rather not do that because I don't want him to go from place to place bouncing around. I want it to be an easier transiton than that.
Do you have any suggestions?
Bess

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Go to line 56 of this message board and you will find the web address to click on. This chat group meets every Wednesday, so if you miss this tonight, check it out next week.

Am sorry to hear of your lack of help with respite and babysitting care. I don't have any help for you, but this chat group does feature Graham or one of his associates, so you would have a 'direct line'. : ) Also, I think he has an email listed at the top of this board.

Best of luck in finding the appropriate care for you and your family. It sounds like you are doing the correct thing - digging carefully for yourself to research the best options for your situation.