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Originally Posted By Sondra

I havent been on this board very long. Guess I need to get prepared that this subject might come up again next month!! LOL!

I shouldn't pick on you guys too much. I cant even remember stuff I did yesterday!!!

I think tomorrow I will start talking about my wolf mix dog!! LMAO!! Do you rememeber how many messeges my 30lbs dog caused?

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Originally Posted By yrand

Yes Sondra my sentiments exactly who can remember your OWN
name somedays,I even forget to take my ginko biloba most days!
When you're going through this process it's kinda like a emotional and mental pregnancy only a real one is usually over in nine months.Think how you'd feel if a real pregnancy lasted
18-24 months? I don't know about you but I'd be ready to strangle everyone including my beloved fish!

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Originally Posted By Pam

Anyways, if your daughter already has an older sibling, that is different, but still beware of any child labeled "attachment disordered." They come in all ages in foster care and can not bond, no matter how much you love them. Their behavior is very disturbed too and they can and often are dangerous to siblings and pets alike, and if the kid is going to be older and bigger than your daughter, I'd take this into consideration. Conduct disorder is another code word for extremely bad problem. Try to find an older chld who has not been a behavior problem in his foster home because whatever he has done there he is going to do in your house too, and possibly worse. I've adopted older kids and I've done foster care. If you adopt an older child, it CAN work out well (mine has), but I'd be very particular. If the child is going to be an only child, you can go for the big stuff....but if there is a young child in the house, don't risk thinking you can love a child who is unattached...they don't care and don't respond. Unless you have the money to travel to CO, there is little therapy for attachment disorder. Regular therapist can't treat it. Sadly, I know of a family who adopted a Cambodian refugee boy, 13 years old, and they disrupted the adoption quickly when they found out he had been molesting her two daughters regularly...ages 9 and 10. And they had been too scared to tell their parents because he threatened to kill their parents if they did tell. He was caught in the act or would not have been caught at all. Unattached kids have no consciences. It is sad that kids become unattached, but don't believe you can fix every child's problems. Take on a child who can really be helped and make sure your social worker is aware of your desires. We just adopted a wonderful ten year old who had no history of behavior problems in the foster home he had lived in for five years, and he has been great here too. We have a six and three year old and they didn't need a negative role model to copy. Take care and forget about your mom-in-law. She raised her family already. You didn't tell her what to do, don't let her tell you what to do. Change the topic when she brings it up. She'll get the hint.