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Originally Posted By Linda

Just got a call today telling me that the girls I was offered were given to the family members. Actually I found this out Friday. The receptionist at the foster agency told me. Today my worker called and said she just found out the girls were placed with family. But with two different families.! No one wanted both. She is going to talk to their caseworker tomorrow as this was not the plan...splitting them up. I told her if things were changed to let me know. But it doesn't look good. At least I am not getting my hopes up anymore.

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Originally Posted By yrand

Oh Linda that's TERRIBLE! I hate it when they do that. Now you
all know I'm not just a conspiracy theorist when I say they're splitting up children for no good reason. Here you wanted them both but they see where they can make two families happy if they break them up, follow the money trail!
They probaly figured oh well it's still in the family but I
lived this nightmare when I was split up from my sisters for five years and it's not for the girls best interest. Especially when you're involved in a family feud where one side hates the other.

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Originally Posted By yrand

My stepfather promised my mother on her deathbed that he would keep her girls together. As soon as she died and he saw he couldn't take her house from my aunt he took the girls to live with his sister in El Paso while I was sent to Dallas
to live with my grandmother. For five years I never so much as spoke to my little sisters. So family members can be the worst when it comes to maintaining contact. And this idea that contact means exchanging photos tell me what child is interested in some **** photos when they miss their siblings!

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Originally Posted By Monique

I hope the family members live close. There will be the right ones for you. It seems like you shouldn't wait long since your not asking for babies or toddlers. Ill pray you receive children by Christmas.

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Originally Posted By Monique

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Well...

I've been there a couple times... There was a boy who had been split from his siblings, the state of New Mexico separated them... The oldest was being bombarded with New Mexico type therapy (not a good thing) I wanted him out before they totally screwed him up.... Well.. they did it! The one brother that he was in contact with was adopted to a family outside the state... as you can imagine he started to act out... when last I heard that opened communication to his sister now it's just one big hopeless mess. I pushed and lobbied for that kid.... I know they were suspect as to why I was so intent on getting him...

Now it's too late... The kid is screwed up. I had to except that, I'm moving on.... you'll have to do the same I’ve seen similar scenarios since, I put my request in and wait, I don’t get my hopes up.

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Originally Posted By yrand

Believe me I have put it in His hands, but whenever He wants to use me I try and follow through. I'm not just sitting here waitng for Him to do what I'm capable of which is writing letters and holding the county officials feet to the fire.
Everytime I hear a horror story like yours it makes me even
more determined.With children in the news every week killing
other children you'd think the experts would realize how important the formative years are for these kids and not be so swayed by political correctness in placing these kids. I
hear stories about how once some of these black kids grow up
and get in their preteen years and start acting out on the white families they get sent back to the system older,angrier,
and even harder to place.It would only make sense to place them where they have a better chance of a PERMANENT home.