[L8ebug]

How long did it take after you were selected as the adoptive parents, to get to communicate with your child or children over the phone or in person?

[Peggy]

It should be fairly soon. Your caseworker should be setting up the first meeting. Some factors may be, if she has been prepared/told she is being adopted, the schedule of the foster parents, or if TPR (all the court dates) have been completed. I was selected in February, but did not meet my daughter until after the final TPR, and her final visit with her birthmom, so it was about a 6 weeks after I was told I was selected. However, I was aware of the reason. Once you meet her, and have established a connection with her and the foster parents, you can call when ever it is OK with the foster parents.

[Barksum]

For our first adoption there was a 2 week mandatory waiting period before we could have any contact with our DS. For our second adoption that two week mandatory waiting period had been cut down to one week -- BUT our DS's cw had to do an out of state placement and had some personal days in there somewhere, so we ended up waiting about a month!!! I did have contact with his foster mom, and she sent me pix and emails, but it was such a hard time.

Different states have different statutes and administrative rules, as well as agency policies and cw and foster parent's schedules to coordinate.

[kamamsm]

In both adoptions we met our kids within a week of being notified we were chosen.