[kamamsm]

Because the child wanted a second chance and because I felt like such a failure- we reported the incident and decided to try again- & not disrupt. We stepped up therapy to twice a week. We had a staffing at DCS with the social worker. All to no avail. He created havoc all week( too many incidents to tell) and then kicked my son (the elder son) in the face! We disrupted yesterday. They did leave the sibling with us.
She was happy and didn't want to leave. DCS had to have crisis intervention come too because he was pitching such a fit - scratching my new car, screaming at his sister, flooding the tilled ground we'd been working in, etc. He did eat lunch with us & laughed and hugged us before he left.
We were all so relieved after he left. I hate it,but its true. We went to VBS- all the kids were laughing and happy. We sang in the car. And there was no fighting when everyone went to bed! They just kissed us and everybody went to bed!

He is going to get some better services now. They are aware of the seriousness of his problems. For that I am grateful. Just thought I'd share how it ended.

[lucyjoy]

I'm sorry for what your family has been through and fully understand the feeling of being safe and the guilt that seems to go with it. I hope the other child gets the right kind of help and the family that is prepared and aware of his needs. I'm glad the sibling stayed. She has the right to be happy and safe and not bounced from house to house because of her brother's illness.

[kay]

I'm glad, too, that the sibling was able to stay. My son was with his older sister through years of foster care, as her behaviors destroyed each placement. Finally the decision was made to separate them, and he's been stable and healing/healed for 4 years, while she went further and further downhill before finally ending up in her forever family. To insist that they stay together wouldn't have done either of them any good. My sympathies to you in your guilt and pain - and I'm thankful that you'll now be able to heal and grow as a family.

[DeedyDavis]

My tears, prayers and cyberhugs for you family and you, especially...

Not much comfort atm, I know...but each day will be better than the last one..

Lots of Love,
Deedy

[dadfor2]

you did the write thing. this child will get the services he needs and know they are aware that he would probably do better as an only child in the home.

take a deep breath....tell your children you love them...and know you did whats best for the child and your whole family.

dadfor2