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Originally Posted By Monique

I was wondering what the ratio of SED girls to SED boys are? We are in Foster parent classes and I really wanted our new foster child ( we hope to adopt) to be able to attend the private school our bio 8 yr old attends. It is 300.00 a month. It will depend upon how much money we receive whether the child goes. I was a sub in Special Ed so I am really looking for learning disorders, ADD, long term effects and will contact their teacher for input if possible. Our private school does not have special ed and will not take those children. I am one of the few in our foster class who doesn't seem to be afraid of children who act out sexually. I was one of those children so maybe that is why. I know we cannot ask for money for private school, but the social workers say if we foster SED kids we receive more money.They say SED kids are in most need of a home. I want to help the ones that are probably not going to end up adopted due to age. The workers also say they disclose all of the info they have on the kids ( We are going thru County). I am not sure if this is true. We know it is not good to take one older than one's bio children, unless it is the opposite sex. My husb and I would like any child ages 3-17. Sibs might be a possibility. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

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Originally Posted By yrand

I was wondering about this issue too. The two little girls I'm trying to adopt have been reported as acting out but there
is no hard evidence that they were actually abused. When I heard what they were accused of, one was caught spanking the others bare bottom before bedtime I asked the worker what were they doing unsupervised with the door closed anyway? What
does a four and five year old know about spanking as a form of
sex play would be my next question, I think I was 25 before I heard of it! In other words what really qualifies as SED or
sexual acting out and should the child neccessarily need ten years of therapy to overcome an incident that was not an ongoing pattern?