[Maynard75]

I am not sure what to do or who to contact. Any suggestions would be appreciated. We adopted Little Man thru an attorney not even 2 months ago. He was very drug exposed, we were told it would only be methadone. When he was born, social services put a hold on him in case the adoption plan fell thru. We spent about a month in the nicu. I lived there and became very close the the nurses. One nurse let it slip that the birth mom was now going to be under investigation by child services because of what happened to Little Man (not the first time.) Little Man has a full sister under 2. How would I find out if they have taken her from birth mom? Birth mom and I still talk and I don't want to flat out ask her, she has kept her life very distant since placment. But in short her story is heavy drug abuse, no job for herself or BF, and a support system that is dysfunctional (alchoholics and mental illness.) If they take Little Man's sister, we would like for her to live with us while birth mom figures life out or adopt her. We would like more children and I could not imagine explaining to Little Man that we did not try to help his big sister.

[CRAZY_WOMAN]

U could ask, how her daughters doing.Does your son have a worker,maybe u can ask them.

[jmd5294]

Call the county CPS/DHS where birthmom lives, identify yourself and your relationship to the family and express your interest in fostering your son's sister. You will probably be required to get a foster license, but the caseworkers would probably be happy that you came forward.

Alternatively, you could offer your help to birthmom-- express your desire to help by offering a temporary home for her daughter during this difficult time if she needs it.

Just depends on the relationship you have with birthmom. I would personally do both.

[URmysunshine4]

I would definitely call DCFS, I am in the same situation but was first placed with the older sibling, when newborn is able to go to daycare (4-6 months) he will be placed with us as well. DCFS wanted both children together and no one would take them & I work ft so newborn has to go to daycare, he is going to a home that takes a lot of exposed babies in.